She is so jealous of me and copies almost everything that I do. When I go out of town to go shopping with friends, then she takes her g/fs to the same place & goes shopping too the next day or the next week. She fixes her hair like mine sometimes & tries to dress like me. When we go out shopping or out to eat, she always thinks that if two girls or two guys are talking to each other, she thinks they are gay. She always talks about gay stuff. She always likes to be near me and always likes to brush up against me with her boobs on my back. Also, when we see people we know at the store, she comes up beside me & leans towards me like she is saying "we are together". She just came out of a bad marriage 4 years ago and I think she is very insecure and she just wants someone to love her, but I don't understand why is turning to me. I just want to be friends. Thanks for all of your help! Have a great day to all!
2007-01-14 08:59:09 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Kill her :)
2007-01-14 09:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by filosofardi 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you just answered you question. She is very insecure and yeah, she wants someone to love her.
She is also a bit immature, which could be a reason she is no longer married, but she is also jealous. She has very low self esteem and looks to you for approval. You have given her reason to be close to you just by being her friend. She sees that as an expression of love.
You may just have to come out and ask her if she is in love with you. Or ask her if she wants to have sex with you. If she answers yes to either question, you could have a problem. Or you may not depending on your feelings for her. If you guys like each other and want to try something different, spend the night together. If that is something that repulses you, then don't. But you are going to have to sit down with her and tell her what she is doing and how it makes you feel.
Good luck
2007-01-14 09:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The youth need make friends, so when adults they make
sense. Today's world is scarey in some way. Try to take the
real news to her. There is a voice calling to do good things,
to be an adult. Having attraction to sexy stuff may have been
a problem. Fertility is not between two girls, this works good
for many that are prettier, or more feminine than average to
keep their fashion happening. This area is the wide and not
published area, tell her being the same in dressing is great.
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organized, tell her people share. Try just taking it to the shrink
and your the psychologist she has available, don't ruin the
trust, get firm, and offer what is realistic. She may need advice
on picking up where she got hurt in love, maybe a new friend.
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2007-01-14 09:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by mtvtoni 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I agree that you have a very insecure friend. Think about your friendship with this girl? If you are close enough tell her how some of these things are bothering you. Offer to still be her friend but explain how these things make you uncomfortable.
If you are afraid of hurting her maybe just not letting her know your every move would help. If you are planning a shopping trip don't tell her where you are going.
Good luck
2007-01-14 09:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by lisaquinn9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, my friend is almost exactly the same except she doesn't copy me. In fact she is always making fun of me, but she is always talking about how gay people are and stuff. I think you should talk to her about how you feel. Maybe it is more than the marriage that is bothering her..? And tell her that you just want to be friends and that you are not a lesbian...unless you are...well anyway yeah thats what you should do.
2007-01-14 09:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cracker <3 Beaner Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she admires you a lot. I mean, think about it: why else would she do the same things you do, right? But if she thinks that 2 people of the same gender hanging out together are gay, she's implying probably the same thing about herself! And from the things you're describing about how she acts and talks in front of you, she sounds gay herself....Hmm...!!
I say you tell her that what she's doing is NOT making you comfortable, that you want to be good friends with her but feel uncomfortable when she brushes against you and does other such things. Ask her what she's trying to say to you.
Good luck in communicating with her about your feelings!
2007-01-14 09:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♡♥ sHaNu ♥♡ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Scolburn1,
If shes acting all weird around you then yes you were right shes insecure. Shes probably having a mental breakdown inside, give her sometime she'll probably be better. But if this has been going on for months then quietly sit down with her and tell her how you feel about her behavior and if she doesn't stop tell her to see a therapist or someone to help her with her feelings...
she'll understand.
2007-01-14 09:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she copies you doesn't mean she is jealous of you. Sounds to me like she thinks you are a great person, especially if she is trying to emulate your life. I wouldn't tell her to hit the road or anything, sounds like she is messed up a little. Just tell her you value her friendship, and love her in a sisterly way and that is all you want to be. It seems like she is trying to figure out where she fits in.
2007-01-14 09:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're a bit paranoid. And perhaps her personality annoys you and therefore you aggravate and exagerrate things. I think if she annoys you so much you should take distance from her, slowly and maturely, she probably needs someone to be around and feel supported. And remember imitation is the purest form of flattery ;) Good luck.
2007-01-14 09:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel and that you are just good friends. I don't know for sure but it sounds like a clip out of the movie "Single White Female". Just kidding... Anyways you better let her feel before it gets carried away and leads to something you don't want.
2007-01-14 09:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you should be happy, I do the same thing when I hang with cool people, and people lesser cooler then me, copies me
is human nature to copy things, for example, you dont' really own the shopping place you go to, so why can't your friend go there?
she only copys you because she looks up to you, and she problly thinks highly of you, so let it be.
2007-01-14 09:02:59 · answer #11 · answered by MiKe Drazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋