My ex had been playing me with another woman. He was taking this woman to all the family affairs with her kids instead of his kids. I used to say my child needed to get to know her other side of the family since I was living in a town far away from my own family was just me and kids. He would tell me his mother wanted to see my child and I would say ok because I really wanted her to get to know her grandmother. I just learned that instead of just taking her to see his mother, he was taking her to see this woman he was seeing also. She wrote me an email and bragged on how she was doing that. I feel if he didn't think his children were good enough for the regular family affair he was taking her and her children to, and if he would disrespect me like that when I was trying to do right by his side. He doesn't really need to see his kids. Oh, we have two one is a baby right now, but no one on his side or the woman has ever seen his son.
2007-01-14 08:56:45 · 8 answers · asked by Mis I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So do you really believe that the type of person you are don't effect who your child turns out to be? It takes more to be a good father than to come and buy McDoldolds once a month when you are making 80,000. Something I just found out also. He has been saying he is broke and not giving me the correct amount for my child support. If a man can, and the woman, is making fun of the way they disrespected you, why should you trust them to paint you correctly to your child when you are not around?
2007-01-14 09:41:14 · update #1
That man is a phony and used you and will use others. A leopard in that deep never changes his spots. (Don't gimmee that 2nd chance B.S.) He's not good enough for your children either. He is a wicked man and I wonder how long his Karma is going to take to turn that Bull into a Steer. No, he doesn't deserve anything from you. Maybe later you will find out how your child's grandma is feeling about being fooled. But there's plenty of time for that. I believe in forgiving (for your own good if nothing else!!) but not in forgetting!! Better watch for that leopard's tracks so you can get rid of him. He's a bum. And the other woman is a screaming B**** Sorry. @8-( Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-01-14 09:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel his main intention is seeing and spending time with his kids (hopefully that's the case) then you probably should not be too critical about what he does and who he takes them to visit, assuming of coarse that everything is above board. You should be commended for understanding the importance of the kids maintaining a relationship with "dad" and other relatives that can be a positive influence in their lives as they grow. Go about establishing a new life for yourself without your ex and continue to do the best for your kids.
2007-01-14 17:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by butkus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has established paternity, then you can't legally keep the child from him. And unless he is actually putting the child in danger or doing something the custody decree says he can't do, then you really don't have any say in where he takes the child or who lets the child be around. I know that's probably not what you want to hear--but it is the truth, legally anyway.
2007-01-14 17:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you dont want to hear this but his disrepect for you has nothing to do with seeing his children. Just be thankful that YOU are rid of him. My ex is very disrespectful to me and has involved many women in our childrens life, but I would never even think of denying him of them. Not only are you denying HIM, you are denying your children the right to have a relationship with thier dad. Its not your choice and they will resent you someday if you are the reason that kept them from him.
2007-01-14 17:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This shouldn't be about him or you, it should be about your childrens right to see their Father. He has been a **** but that's a seperate issue, deal with it seperately. Don't 'punish' him by denying him access to his kids.
2007-01-14 17:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this all is bad karma for you isnt it? if he is a good father yes. dont let you feelings for him interfer with things it just makes a mess of the situlation.
2007-01-14 17:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by wish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your right to deny him the ability to see his children.
2007-01-14 17:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a good father, don't keep your kids from him.
Good~Luck to you.
2007-01-14 17:01:53 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋