How do you tell your boyfriend you are pregnant? He has been asking me why my stomach is bigger than before. We have not been doing anything "physical". But a few months ago I was raped by one of my dads friends who is 26 and whos name is Ben.. I'm only 15 and my boyfriend is 16.. But when it happened I didn't tell anyone because I didn't want to get anyone in trouble...
2007-01-14 08:52:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I already told my dad...
2007-01-14 08:58:52 · update #1
My mom died... years ago.. :(
2007-01-14 09:00:43 · update #2
Wow, you are in a really tough spot! How did your Dad take it? I would just tell your boyfriend that something upsetting has happened to you, that you need his support when you tell him. Then just tell him the truth. If you need a third party to be there, have the guidance councelor at school support you when you tell him.
I am an adoptive parent and would be more then willing to talk to you off here about the pros and cons of abortion, adoption and being a teen parenting. I am also willing to just listen and offer you any support you might need. Feel free to email me privately at jen1204ca@yahoo.ca
2007-01-14 09:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by calgaryjenhere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, you need to talk with a counselor at school, your parents, and the police, as well as your boyfriend.
Your dad's friend DOES need to get in trouble. Rape is nothing to sweep under the rug.
As for talking to your boyfriend...that's a tough one. Sit him down and explain that you were raped. If he's a good guy, he'll understand and see you through this.
2007-01-14 08:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Meg M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHOA..that is going to be a good one. How previous are you 2? guess searching on age, relies upon on the answer..first of all visit a health practitioner or purchase a pair being pregnant assessments..do not want to flow round declaring something that could not genuine. then you actual ought to wish to call him up tell him you've something you 2 want to communicate about. Ask him how he feels about childrens and what he ought to imagine about having one. Take the oblique way of telling him you're pregnant in simple terms to work out what he thinks about childrens. Then, if i replaced right into a lady, i ought to coach him the being pregnant try and tell him you will be a daddy
2016-11-23 18:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops on that guy Ben. This is not acceptable. You did nothing wrong and you need to let the authorities know in order to prevent this happening to anyone else. Get this man off the street and get some help for yourself. Do it for the unborn child you are carrying and for other kids everywhere.
2007-01-14 09:02:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you need to tell your parents. Also, you need to tell your boyfriend what happened. Don't worry about getting anyone in trouble, what happened was his fault, and he should not be able to get away with it. But just so you know, rape is a serious charge. I'm not saying it didn't happen, but letting it happen and changing your mind later is not rape, neither is changing your mind. You need to tell your parents what happened, and be straight with them why you didn't tell them earlier. If they don't do anything about it, go to your school counselor, or the police. He needs to be in trouble, and if your boyfriend is not understanding, you don't need him anyway.
2007-01-14 08:58:25 · answer #5 · answered by shorty_7123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off if you have been raped you need to go to the police and let them know ever thing. As for your boyfriend just tell him. He will either get mad and break up or he will be there for you. However you need to go to the police.
2007-01-14 09:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents first. Then tell your boyfriend. Both of them are going to be hurt you didn't confide in them sooner and sad that this happened to you. You need to consider your options (abortion, adoption, keep it) and talk to someone about your decision. Get checked for STD's. It's going to be hard but you must tell your parents.
2007-01-14 09:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your mom and what happened.Just set him down and tell him, im sure he'll understand.He might freak out at first but I think if he's a nice caring guy, then he'll understand.
2007-01-14 12:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your mother. The person who raped you will have to take a paternity test.
But, because you didn't report it, he can claim it was consentual, meaning you agreed.
2007-01-14 08:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you NEED to go to the police, but you might want to tell your dad or mom or an adult figure who will believe you. You NEED to go to the police.....
2007-01-14 09:02:04 · answer #10 · answered by iheartludacris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋