Controling Mother?

Question

My mother tries to run my entire life.She tells me what to do all of the time.She criticizes every little thing and then yells at me about the simplest stuff.She blows cigarette smoke it my face,tells me i'm going to hell if i dont believe in god,and says she has the right to do what she wants.What do you think? What should I do?

Answer 1

get her to a psychologist; maybe she has a mental illness.

stay away from her

Answer 2

Try your best to ignore what she tells you; none of it is true, okay? :) She has abolutely NO right to do that to you, whether you are an adult or a kid or a teen, her child or her enemy; she especially has no right to tell you whether you're going to heaven or hell. She should not be blowing cigarette smoke into your face. Bottom line, she's not being a responsible, mature mother.
When she tells you that she has the right to do what she wants, tell her that YOU have the right to choose your beliefs, whether they make other people happy or not. Tell her that, yes, she has the right to do what she wants, but you also have the right to LIVE life happily.
(I still think it's extremely rude and heartless of her to blow cigarette smoke in your face! Doesn't she realize what it can do to your (and her) health?)
She is probably having a hard time dealing with life right now. Just ignore her negative comments, and don't be around her too much at such times. When things get too tough for you to bear, do you think it's possible and comfortable for you to tell her that she's making your life miserable?.... If yes, I'd strongly suggest you do that. Perhaps she doesn't know that she's hurting you; perhaps she doesn't realize this because no one ever did similar things to her. Try spending more time with good friends; get some nice hobbies to get your mind off your mother. If she doesn't let you do THIS either, then... well, tell her you are a human and have needs and wants and if she can't understand that, then (you tell her this) she needs to realize that you are her child and she's your mother.
In spite of all this, I say you be as good to her as you can be. Do the things she wants you to do.... Like, if you can cook, then sometimes try to cook her her favorite food or something, and give it to her with, "Mom, I made this. I thought you'd like it," and smile sweetly.
Or then, buy her a gift every now and then... even if she is the type who'd just throw the gift back into your face. Such things will help her realize how she's treating you.
Best of luck with all this! You're not alone; there are millions like you! The fault is completely your mother's, and I pray she'll realize soon how much she's hurting you.

Answer 3

Well, first off, it sounds like mom needs some LUVIN'. And not the kind you get from your kids!! Or a valium or something.
As far as the smoke thing, I guess I'd fake some sort of asthma attack and freak her out. It sounds like ya all need to lighten up (not light up) around your house.
Whatever you're doing now is not working. So try the opposite. The definition of insanity is, during the same thing over and over, expecting different results.

Answer 4

Do you live with her? Sometimes we have to grow up and move out before we con do anything about what our parents throw at us.

If you are of age, however, my suggestion is that you separate yourself from her, with like states between you. She sounds toxic in more ways than one.

We can't always be around those that we love or who love us. You can always send your love, one way, thru cards and letters, and just skip the phone calls and visits for awhile. Perhaps she will grow a bit mellower with time.

If not, at least it will afford you a well earned vacation from her poison. Don't think you can change her tho. It's unlikely. Try to love her and realize that you need not love what she does only know you may need to stay away from her and love her from a distance.

Answer 5

When you are old enough move out and stay away from her. You could tell her that God made you and that any relationship you have with him will be up to the two of you. Try not to judge God by the way she acts. Do the best that you can for yourself.

Answer 6

Tell your mom that believing in God is not enough and that she needs to find the holy spirit herself. She sounds like a misserable woman. She blows smoke in your face? Doesn't she know that will cuase cancer in you in 50 years or so?

Answer 7

I think it totally depends in the circumstances you guz go through . (Although in my religion , we are in no way allowed to misbehave with our parents). See beyond her anger, is she depressed, over worked, Is she unhappy in her life then u can talk to her politely and explain her (depends how old are you) that mom please you can tell me politely too i will listen to you, and if she is forcing you into something you don't want to i must say u should be polite even if you are angry to say no to her. I don't know how old are you coz when we are very young we feel we know the world although we really don't know nothing and when our parents stop us for something we feel they don't know anything .

Answer 8

Start preparing to move out when you are 18. Get a job to save money.

Answer 9

Well there is really no right or wrong here, because she is your mother, and I guess you are stuck with her, but just tell her how you feel, and ask her to please not blow the smoke in your face. Good Luck Sweetie

Answer 10

yes they all are......... i am a mom and i do the same , but it is not that we want to rule over you , it is just the feeling that we want to protect and make your life better than ours. Thant's all Love your mom and take a chill pill , listen to her and what you don't agree with then just ignore it latter on in life you will think " my mom told me not to do this, now i know she was right" je je ..... i learned my lesson!

Answer 11

If you are a minor, you must listen your mother. However, she has no right to blow smoke in your face.