I'd like answers from people over 18 years old. Until what age it is considered normal to never have had sex?

Question

Until what age it is considered normal to never have had sex?
If you would know a person who never had sex, what would you do? Would you worry about that person? If yes, why and when(at what age)? If not, why?

Are you so stupid not to understand the question? Don't you understand? Let's say that the choice of marriage is gone from the start... Do you understand now?

Your answers are appalling!
Stupid Americans...
I'm going to a striptease club, is it OK with you?

Answer 1

I'm 27. My brother-in-law is 25 and he's never had sex. I think that's a little strange, but I also know a guy in his late forties that has never had a relationship of any kind and that is extremely weird. He seems effeminate, lives with his mom. I've seen him at religious services with her and he holds the hymn book for them to share. Freaky deaky. He creeps me out. My brother-in-law seems masculine despite never having had sex yet. I guess it depends on how they acted whether I would think it was not normale. LOL Look at the forty year old virgin.

Answer 2

A popular saying is, "Normal is just a setting on a hairdryer."

There is no "normal." Abstaining from sex at any age is an acceptable choice. Cultural and religious beliefs often restrict sexual behavior, and these should be respected.

I would be much more concerned about someone who is engaging in potentially dangerous sexual behavior than someone who's never had sex.

It's more important to be mature chronologically and emotionally than to try to fit into a timetable of sexual behavior. Everyone is different.

If you genuinely believe the person is so sexually repressed it is causing her or him great unhappiness, then that's different. But if the person is happy and functions well in life, leave them alone. It's their life, after all. And worrying doesn't accomplish anything.

Besides, how do you know if this person is telling the truth about being celibate? Maybe they are hiding childhood abuse or just don't want to share all their personal information with you. If the former is unfortunately true, all you can do is be helpful and supportive. Abuse is a lot more common than most people realize.

Answer 3

These days,the longer a single person spent going without sex,that had yet to fall in love,the more respect I would have for that person.So my answer,not the one I would given you 40 years ago, is there is no set age you have to have sex to considered abnormal! I graduated high school in 1968 and had my first love affair at 16.One guy in our crew,turned 18 his senior year,never had sex,so we got him drunk,took him in to NYC,and set him up with a street hooker. She had a runny nose an all. Do you know how lucky he was not to catch anything.
Since I am divorced,if I found a woman in her 40's or 50's that was straight,and never had sex,since she never found love,I would see if there was any chemistry between us,and yes if there was,yes,I would worry,that she might get away from me!!

Answer 4

I personally was 19 but I know several people who are well into their twenties and a few in their thirties as well who have never had sex. It is a personal decision and none of anybody elses business. You do what feels right to you, not what someone else says here. It is not abnormal at any age, I would not be concerned as long as this person seemed to be able to have relationships with other people sexual or otherwise.

Answer 5

Great question! This does really depend on cultural influences as well as your personal attitude to sex. In my opinion I would say that waiting until the age of 18 would be acceptable. Any sooner, I think one is mentally unprepared for the emtional challenges that sex brings to any relationship and older would isolate you from your peers. Sad to say.

Besides its personal, and really up to you. I think we as a global society jump into bed too quickly and seldom think it through. Although that said, if I met someone in their 30’s who was still a virgin, I might find that a little odd. But that does not mean a 30 year old with 75 sexual partners is ideal either.

So its great to see someone is at least thinking about waiting. I wouldn’t worry, in fact I can respect someone for making the decision to wait until they are ready.

Answer 6

I'd say somewhere between 18-21. Depending on your age group, social status. I think after you're 21, people might think "You're a virgin? Are you serious? Oh, that's nice." No, I would definitely not worry about anyone at any age not having had sex yet. Unless there's a physical or psychological reason. But if they are "saving themselves for the right one" more POWER TO YA!

Answer 7

That is a personal choice, and there is no correct answer. When the time is right, and you choose. My brother is a smart, good looking guy, and he & his girlfriend are waiting to get married. They are both 31. The way she made me understand her choice was simply, "You should be ready to support a baby if you are ready for sex, because accidents happen" It is refreshing to see people who have that attitude. I wish I would have waited! I didnt have self-respect for a long time, and thought I "owed" it to a man. Casual sex is overrated. It is a million times better & more passionate when you are in love and your partner is your best friend. Some people never have sex. It isnt a big deal. Our society is overrun by sex. It is everywhere, and so it seems cheap & casual.

Answer 8

Sex outside of marriage is not normal, no matter how many people do it. So the proper age to start sex is your wedding night. I would commend someone who has not had sex. Sex is a private matter and not a matter of open discussion. I once told a friend that I never had sex with my wife until we were married and asked if did as well. He asked me "What was her maiden name?" Seriously personal preference but stay chaste until wedding.

Answer 9

No age is "too old". It is a personal choice. Just like riding a bike, or drinking your first alcoholic drink.

Yes, sex is a natural part of a person's life, but I have known some people who just aren't "sexual" people.

I took care of a lady who was over 90 yrs old who had never had sex. She feel in love at a young age, and was to be married. But her partner to be went to war and was killed. She never dated again. And of course society norms for back then was no sex until marriage.

Answer 10

I would start to worry about that person say if they were 150 years old and in very good health and had never shown any interest in sex. Since this is a personal matter only the person involved should have any concern over this situation.