What to do when one is very desperate?

Question

what to do when one is very desperate from problems striking him every possible way, and the more u try, the more complictaed it gets

plz serious decisions only

Answer 1

How does one eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

First off, one has to be willing to accept that he has made decisions that have created each and every problem. This is not to say that unpredictable things don't happen, but unpredictable things don't happen so often and so fast that outside forces puts one into a desperate position.

If one can accept this, one can get out of it - one bite at a time.

Next, as in quicksand or in a bear trap, while the natural response is to panic and try like hell to get out, the productive response is to sit still for a second and explore options rationally – bearing the immediate pain in order to avoid more and/or worse pain. If one is in a bear trap and a wild bear is nearby, then the seemingly desperate trap becomes the least of one's concerns.

Bottom line: control the things you can control and let go of those you cannot. And take a deep breath. A year from now, this time will not seem so desperate. Life is like that – it is a marathon, not a sprint or in other words, one game does not make a season. Get through this game and apply what you learn and suffer to play better in the next game.

Answer 2

First do not respond quickly to the feelings of desperation. Those thoughts when you are in a state of desperation are usually always the makings of bad decisions.

The thing to do (which is the hardest thing of all) is wait a while before doing anything. You won't make rash decisions this way.

I don't know your circumstances. If you can distance yourself from the pressure that you are feeling in any way, do so. Clear your head for a bit. Try and do things one day at a time for now. I'm not saying forever, just allow things to ease up if possible without having to try to feel like you are constantly fighting a battle.

Hopefully, this will allow things to become less complicated and you can deal with these problems a little easier.

Best wishes!

Answer 3

Be simplicity.

I think it's like the drama teacher asking you to "be the tomato," but in all reality, that's what you have to do; be simplicity. Be teflon. Do not get carried away with his/her desperation and problems. This is on of the reasons that psychologists get paid the big bucks. It seems like they get paid for nothing, but in all fairness, it is very difficult to listen to someone's problems and NOT get swept away by them. It's hard to just reply with, "What are your choices?" And, "How did this make you feel?" Or, "Do you want to weigh the pros and cons with me?"

Unless, of course by "one's problems" you actually mean your own (which is an unusual pronoun to use for yourself). If this is indeed the case, what is/are your problem(s), and would you like me to weigh the pros and cons with you?

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Answer 4

Welcome to life...if you won't remember it in in 10 years it isn't worth worring about today..Don't get drawn into the drama of it all...