Im 14 ok just dont juge me. i just had twinns Summer and Samantha. My Boyfriend wants kids he loves them but i kinda want to slow down since im only 14. ive told him that i dont want any more but at night all he wants to do is make love. he dosent use condoms though and i wish he would. I dont want him to leave cuze i dont want a broken home with my girls. HELP!
2007-01-14 07:11:24 · 6 answers · asked by MUSICGIRL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok it is YOUR BODY, YOUR LIFE, and you will be the one taking care of the kids. Stop it! Be a big girl and GO GET ON BIRTH CONTROL NOW!!!!! Part of being a mom is to be strong and that involves you standing up for yourself. Do what you have to do because the reality is that you are solely responsible whether or not you get pregnant. (unless rape of coarse) So if you choose to make love and do not protect yourself then you my girl are choosing to have more children. He will probably not stay around either. Taking care of children is hard. You know even adults get divorced because taking care of kids is so life consuming. He will never know the extent of the sacrafice or the burdon you will have to face. He is selfish and uncaring if he refuses to wear a condom. So he can "feel" it right? Well remember how it felt to be in labor? You are being stupid and letting some guy who doesn't care a lick about you run you, all over a difference in the way it feels. Didn't you learn anything the first time?
2007-01-21 12:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sunday P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first question is does your b/f have a job or way to support the kids or future kids? Does he talk of marriage? If yes, thats good, but if he loves you he will do what is best for you and him. And right now a condom is an excellent choice. You are a young woman and have a lot of maturing to do, believe me I know what you are talking about. Take good care of your children, wear a condom use birth control, get the guy a job, get a good education. If he leaves, so what.... there are plenty more out there as cute or cuter than he. And maybe one that is smart enough to use protection.
2007-01-14 08:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by pruittwithkids 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your parents? Do you still live at home? How old is your boyfriend? You have got to stop what you are doing, right now. Your first obligation is to your children. Your boyfriend is not very considerate of you if he is willing to risk getting you pregnant again. He is obviously only out for his own satisfaction with no regard of the consequences. If you end up pregnant again, you won't have to worry about having a broken home with your girls. You will be burdened with more children that you are not able to take care of. And the more of a pain in the butt you are for him, the less likely he will stay around. Even if they were his kids, he gets to walk away and you will have to keep going with children in tow. You are only 14 years old, don't you want to be hanging out with your friends and going to the movies and to the mall and to school activities? Heck, you aren't even able to drive a car yet, or vote, or buy cigarettes, or order a beer at a bar, and you already have 2 children to raise and a boyfriend who only thinks about his own sexual gratification. What is wrong with you? And don't say that there are a lot of other 14 year olds who have kids and live with their boyfriends! Just because there is, doesn't make it right! Yeah, you wanted to have sex so the guy would like you, well, now where is he? And what about yourself? There are certain things in life that are supposed to happen in a certain order, or else you upset the natural pattern. It's just like having all 4 seasons. If one season doesn't happen or is shorter or longer than expected, then it upsets the whole thing and there are consequences for that happening. You can't undo what has already been done, but you can prepare yourself for a better tomorrow for you and your girls. It will be tough, but nothing really good is easy! Get yourself on some birth control, if you haven't already, so that you can give your attention to the 2 girls that you have now. You will also need some time for yourself, so don't be having any more children! As far as the boyfriend is concerned, you need to get rid of him, do yourself a favor and your girls. There is not enough time in the day, week, month, or year for you to be spending on anyone but yourself and your girls. That special guy will come along one day and you need to keep yourself special--for only him. Believe me, he will appreciate you for waiting for--only him! Just remember, when you shop, do you shop for something "new" or do you settle for something "used?" Ask your self if you want to be a "new" item or a "used" one for that special guy. Heck, we all think we are "special", but walk the walk, don't just talk the talk. People do have choices. You decide. Life is not all about having sex, you need a foundation to build a good house on, and relationships need a good foundation to start with, too. And that goes both ways, why don't you look for a guy that hasn't already made babies with someone else or who would be with someone for only sex. Don't waste your time on someone who wouldn't waste their time on you............
You say you want to slow down, so why aren't you? Why can't you tell him that you will not have sex without him using a condom? Are you not able to speak and take contol of your own life? Buck up girl, it's time you start making better decisions and start with yourself! Give him the real facts, you don't want to have unprotected sex--PERIOD! And then don't do it! It's that simple, you can't blame it all on him, you have to be in control of YOU! He has to be in control of him--not the other way around! Why are you doing something you don't want to do? Say it to him and mean it, or don't say anything and suffer the consequences.......don't be dumb--get yourself smarter and do the right thing!
2007-01-14 08:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on the pill
2007-01-14 07:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by zen522 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u just had twins and he wants more!!! Get some birthcontrol even if he doesnt want to use condoms.....
2007-01-14 07:17:17 · answer #5 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go on the pill.
2007-01-14 07:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋