She states by not giving it to her that I am not there for her. I stated we are not marrried. She does not think it would be different, when i said it would be different, if things work and get married. She says I am unsupportive.
2007-01-14 06:59:12 · 14 answers · asked by boshie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well,
maybe, instead of loaning it to her.. talk to her about saving some money each week out of her check to pay down on the credit card and go from there.
2007-01-14 07:04:09 · answer #1 · answered by shelly v 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not have to feel obligated to give her the loan as
you say you are not married yet. She can say you are
un-supportive but you can support her by other means,
take her to a signature loan company because they loan
small amounts such as she wants just by a signature and
that way you will be showing her your support.. It's best
to think twice before you loan money to anyone becasue
I loaned out money three times and am still waiting for
the payback as long as 2yrs back.. Be careful.
2007-01-14 08:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO...like you said you are not married and you didn't create the debt and if you "loan" it to her she is not going to learn her lesson of paying down her debt. It has nothing to do with you not caring or it would be differnt if you were married. She was a big girl to make the debt now she needs to be a big girl to pay off the debt
2007-01-14 07:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to satisfy >any< of her debts incurred by herself alone. If she can't get her financial affairs in order to take care of her debts, then she has a problem, not >you<. Who's to say you shell out the money so she can pay off her debts, and then she walks out the door with a grin on her face and her middle finger up in the air?? I think she's taking you for a ride, pal. Don't hand over a DIME to her.
2007-01-14 07:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should you pay off her debt? Youve offered £200-300 to her and shes been so ungrateful about it. That is out of order! You shouldnt give her anything and if she tries to end the relationship then we all know what her intentions were......!!!
2016-05-24 01:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her sign a promise note to pay you back..Put the date of the loan and how much it is,and when she suppose to pay it back,make her sign it...That way if she breaks up and don,t pay you then you can take it to small claims court and get your money back...I would not lend anyone money any other way,because if they fail to pay you back ,you don,t have anything to prove it is owed to you...I watch court TV every day and the women always say well it was a gift.....and the man don,t have a note then he don,t get paid...The promise note is your assureance that she will have to pay you back ,either on her own or through the courts.....Besides this was something she was involved in before you,so really you don,t owe her anything....Its not unsupportive its using your head....Women do this the men all the time and vise versa
2007-01-14 07:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you watched Judge Mathis. If so, you should not commingle funds with your girlfriend. Her bills are her bills, your bills are your bills. I do not believe you are being unsporting, I think is common sense. Does she live by herself. Maybe you can help her out buying some groceries, or picking her up from the job, to save money with gas. Find other ways to help her out and show your support at the same time.
2007-01-14 07:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not loan it to her, but you should give her a chance to earn it, 15 or 20 dollars at a time.
2007-01-14 07:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do ya trust her? I think you can answer this one yourself, if you can decide if you trust her or not.
If it was a recurring problem, I'd tell her that she can have the money, and not pay it back, but I'm going to teach her how to handle her finances, so she never needs to borrow money from me again. But that's me, not you. You are the one closest to her. You are the authority on the matter, not Yahoo Answers.
2007-01-14 07:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. She sounds demanding and most people with a decent amount of self-respect don't demand loans!
You're obviously not under any obligation to loan her anything. Now that you've made yourself clear, she should drop it and just respect your choice.
2007-01-14 07:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋