Im 17 and madly in love with my fiancee of 1 1/2 years. We already have our wedding almost planned out and everything. I have these feelings like I need to be a mother now. I have taken care of my neices since birth and I love it. I know I'm only 17 and not married yet but I so so so so badly want to be a mommy now! Is this bad or good? We aren't trying to have a baby, its just if it happens it happens. I might be pregnant now. Seriously, is this a bad or good thing? What is going on? Why do I feel this way?
2007-01-14 06:54:00 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well if you are planning to have a weeding just try and wait until then so you can fit into your dress,however your feelings are so normal i have four kids one on the way i couldn't wait to start my faimly,had my first and only son when i was 20 follwed by three girls and my little surprise in my belly is yet to be determined! goodluck!
2007-01-14 07:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by tina1rules 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the way that God designed us women. There are some in this day and age who prefer a career first, but then there are people like yourself who think traditionally. There is nothing wrong with that. It is natural that you would love your fiance so much that you would want to make a family with him. Nothing weird or wrong,
However, I think it important that you know that babysitting children and having your own are to totally different circumstances. Even I who babysat children most of my life and worked in child care for many years never realized what could come along with having a child.
There is the pregnancy which will change your body, well I am sure you are thinking that is not such a bad deal and it is not just be fore warned.
There is late night feedings and then they have to adjust to the new world so they have runny noses and coughs a lot. There is formula and diapers to by and then the wondering if you are doing the right thing.
Then there is that slight possibility that you could have a special needs child and if that happen what are you going to do. My husband I did not plan for it and thank God we were more mature and what have you when we did have our one and only child.
With all that said, what I am trying to say is that you should waite till you and your fiance are married so that you can be together and go through this together. You never know what might come your way.
Ultimately the chioce is yours, but I would not be a good parent if I did not let someone else know that it is not all good all the time. Children are a huge responsibility.
2007-01-14 15:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way at 17 also and I am now 23. I married a year ago and we don't have children yet (we have had three miscarriages). However I suggest waiting. Your life will change so much in the next 5 years even though you don't think it will. Almost all of my friends have children and had them at a young age and they struggle. There are so many things to think about. If you are still living at home and your parents are supporting you then you need to wait, you may not realize how hard it is out there on your own. When I was 17 I was with someone who I wound up being with for 4 years and then we broke up and once I married someone else I realized I was right in waiting to have a baby because so much changes.
2007-01-14 15:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't bad or weird to want to have a baby even at your young age. But I strongly urge you to wait. I had a baby at 18, it is really hard, and the strain of being a newlywed and new parents was too much on my marriage, we split a few months after the baby was born. You need to focus on your life first. Then get married and spend some time together. Once you have children there is no time to just enjoy eachothers company and go out as a couple.
2007-01-14 15:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first, let me say that yes, it is normal, completely! Look back 150 years, people were married w/ 3 kids by the time they were 17, but life expectancy was shorter then.
Should you act on it? NO MAM. this is coming from someone who got prego at 18, had a baby at 19. I love my daughter and would not trade her for anything in this world. But if you have plans on going to college (AND YOU SHOULD) then wait. I'm speaking as a working single student mom. And it is hard as hell. I have to juggle working, school, day care, free time, ect. So just trust me, wait to have a baby. Just hold on to your urges and wait till you get out of school. :)
2007-01-14 15:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by kandykidsaturn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it is normal for a woman to feel the urge to procreate, but don't do it yet. I had my first at 21 and now my second at 27, I feel a little guilty about having my first so young. I am so more ready to be a mom this time around. Be young and enjoy your fiance.
P.S. Both my children have the same father, in case you were wondering
2007-01-14 15:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not bad or weird its normal for a girl to want to settle down and have a family hope it all works out for ya.
2007-01-14 15:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a mom is not a bad idea, but its not easy as it sound.
why don't u wait for a little bit after married, let's say a year... then have one
but if u think that u r ready, then go for it
2007-01-14 14:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by eddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing bad or weird when wanting to have a baby it's a joyous occasion just make your ready for the challenges a hand
2007-01-14 15:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by day shaun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not a bad thing i fell the same way that i wold like to be a mom already
2007-01-14 15:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋