child support increased, father upset at me?

Question

I have been recieving $47 per week in child support. That at the time was 20% of his income weekly. When he got a better job I requested a modification. 6 months later the new weekly amount is $179 per week. Plus backpay. He is upset that I will now recieve $430 a month. He says he cannot support his family, wife (who doesn't work) and 1 year old. He filed a motion against the order. And threatened he would forced to quit his job. His motion could take 6 months. He says our child doesn't need that much money to survive. What is everyones view? His sister is on his side? My friends and family see it my way? 20% is the law.

I meant I would now recieve $931 per month, not $430, sorry

More info:
No, I am not trying to get more to be vindictive. It's been years since the order was set. We both have the right to request a modification at anytime. I just am not able to really support me and my son with only $47 bucks a week.

I had to quit my job to watch my son. My boyfriend pays the rent and utilities and I help as much as I can. I could not afford the day care costs when my son was to start kindergarden, it is $250 bucks per week. Now i have no income and was waiting for the increase in child support so I could go back to work and pay for day care and provide for my son and me. he thinks I am gonna sit on my butt and spend his childsupport on myself. When in reality I can't wait to get back to work

Answer 1

he needs to understand its not easy on anyone involved, and he IS going to get angry any time he has to pay extra. he's mad at the amount already.

they all seem to think we spend it on ourselves and sit around doing nothing. any parent who takes care of a child KNOWs getting a water logged thumb isnt part of parenthood. children ARE work. all the ex has to do is add up your expenses and its easy to see where the money goes.

some just cant add i guess, but rather just subtract.

1) your daycare should be paid by him. most states have both parents pay for daycare. if you have not been working, you would think he would appreciate you saving him that extra money he would have been ordered to pay.
2) tell him to go ahead a quit his job; he and his new wife/child can live on the lamb, they will take his license, put tax refund intercepts on all refunds (state/federal), and so much more. dont let him rattle your cage. cant afford to live? what does he think you and his child have been doing... living high on the hog? if his wife doesnt work (because daycare is so expensive) tell him you know the feeling. but now she has an adult (him) at home during the night, so she can get a small part time job of some sort.

HE MAKES A HUGE AMOUNT OF MONEY IN ORDER FOR YOU TO BE ORDERED THAT AMOUNT. stop feeling sorry for him and believing his sob story. if he is over extended, its not your fault he has lots of auto payments, large house, credit cards or what ever.

3) here are some links. one is a calculator, the rest are for you. just click on your state and find the section you need.

http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html

http://www.supportkids.com/

http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html

http://www.petitionspot.com/petitions/collectchildsupport

http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp

Answer 2

The courts make the decision on how much a child *needs* to survive. It's all based on income ratio's. Let the judge make that decision, and if the childs father renigs, take his butt back to court. He has an obligation to support his child, whether in his current marriage or previous marriage, the child is still his, and he has a responsibility to uphold. Now, on the other hand, if you're being vindictive and going after him every time he gets a pay-raise, then there's something to be said there. He >does< have another family to support, the fact that his current wife doesn't work, is really none of your concern. I'd say you're receiving quite the fair amount to provide for your child comfortably.

Answer 3

In my state, child support cases are reviewed every 36mos, whether either parent requests a modification or not. Parent has to fill out paperwork, send it off, and Support Enforcement reviews it and THEY can make a decision regarding modification EVEN IF neither parent requests it.
For example; my fiance pays nearly a grand in child support for three kids. Once we get married and his case is reviewed, he must then state how much more income is coming into our household because of me.
Tho the State cannot consider the income of a new spouse under most circumstances, they can deviate as they see fit. And including my income raises his substantially.
So actually, we may not marry simply because of this, or I will "leave" while Support Enforcement investigates our income so it can't be considered as secure.
I have my own children to support and my fiance pays enough as it is, I"m not willing to contribute my hard-earned $$ to his kids when it needs to go to my own. And I don't expect his $$ for my kids, either.

Answer 4

The state (if you are, in fact in the U.S.) is the authority on this, not you. The only way for you to make a modification on this, is if you let him off the hook for child support completely. Since that probably won't happen, there's not much you can do about it. He was the one that was trying to cheat the system, and he was effectively taking money from you, not the other way around.

Both parents are obligated to support of their child. One shouldn't have to foot the bill by themselves. If he got a lower paying job, he'd be the first one to get in there and tell them about it. Why didn't he do it when he got a higher paying job?

When I paid child support, (a long time ago) My ex got somewhere in the neighborhood of $500 every couple weeks. Since I got custody, the biggest child support check I ever got was $40 for a month.

Three years ago, my ex told me her boyfriend had to go get a loan to pay off her $200 child support debt, and she said she was done paying, she would let them put her in jail next time. I sat down with my daughter, and told her she had a choice. She could have a deadbeat Mom, or she could have a deadbeat Mom that's in jail (not in so many words, of course). She chose to keep Mom out of jail, so my ex and I went to the courthouse, and discontinued the child support because (as we found out) there is no option to lower it. The only option is to get rid of it.

Answer 5

do you feel that you need this extra money for the child?? how old is the child? I am not saying this is you.. but, some woman stay down at the damn friend of the courts office to make a guys life hell, I receive child support and have not been back to the friend of the court for 8 yrs i get 69.00 bucks a week.. i have a 14 year old... for me i feel like i don't need his money... I just hope you are doing it to support your child not, trying to get back at him.. and yes, it will be hard on him to support his own family and many woman don't care as long as they are sticking it to the guy for him not being with them....it's sad.

Answer 6

Well, I think if he is making a certain amount he should pay you what he owes whether or not your child requires that much money or not. As far as his 1 yr old... he knew about your child beforehand and went out and got another one. If he quits his job, fine, then when he eventually gets another he will owe backpay AGAIN! He is just up a creek without a paddle.

Answer 7

you know if you had not divorced daycare would not be a problem anyway 900 a month is to much for one child,period!you should be ashamed of your self,get a job there are night jobs out there and do the right thing and go to court and agree to a more realistic amount,,,,you can do that i know this for a fact remember child support is for the kid not for both of you just the kid hence the name child support alimony is for you ,,,,,not child support maybe the mad dad would like to watch the kid while you work a night job????

Answer 8

You know what that is just too bad that he is upset . He should have thought of that before he started a 2nd family . You do what you have to,to take care of your child . that pittience that he gives you is nothing compared to the cost of clothing ,food ,utilities and etc . That is just too bad that he is upset . Tell him to grow up and his wife should get a job instead of sitting on her tail . sorry not to offend anyone just stating the truth . good luck to you honey I will pray for you.

Answer 9

i actually sympathized with you till you referred to as him an not worth motherf*cker. the main severe element you nonetheless might desire to learn is which you made a undesirable selection once you desperate who might father your newborn. Now you could desire to facilitate a dating between that guy and your newborn, for her sake. not worth skill something genuine by definition, in court docket. In CA, smoking weed does not look a project. He o.k. may be risky. that may not unlawful. you may desire to have asked him to pay for something that utilized to the newborn. Paying your telephone invoice is ridiculous. specific, circulate to court docket and get what you're entitled to. He might desire to get finished visitation now, and there is not something you're able to do to end that. do not stay in concern that he will ask. He the two will, or he won't. Ask for what you could desire to get by. circulate to the state and ask for each benefit they might desire to furnish you. they gets the money lower back from him, too. it might impression the finished quantity of cs you get, in spite of the undeniable fact that, so get your info so as. i know you're mad, yet this project with your newborn is of your making. you have got chosen a extra advantageous guy to father that newborn. settle for it, and do the the terrific option element to your newborn now.

Answer 10

oh well, those kids aren't cheep to raise and the burdon should not always be on just the custodial parent. he knew he had children so he shouldn't have chosen more of them he had a responsibility already why make more on his self?