my husband is always acusing me of cheating.but,im always home with the kids.everytime i go somewhere,his aunt is following me.now,i found out,he is the cheater,and his aunt knew.what i did,i cursed them both out.picked up all his clothes,put em out,and kicked him out.now his family,is all against me saying,that he left,because im a cheater,and saying that,im trying,to ruin his life.heck,he acused me of cheating,why?if he was the one cheating.did i over do it?
2007-01-14 06:27:29 · 24 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you didn't over do it.
2007-01-14 06:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesn't trust you because he can't trust himself. It's called laying blame and diverting the negative perceptions towards someone else, therefore look like the good guy. He's obviously been coached in anticipation of the future end of your relationship...sorry. You are definitely better off without the emotional abuse from this loser and his aunt. She shouldn't even be in the picture, why she is I have no idea. You did the right thing. Get all of your facts on paper and document everything, cover your @ss, as it's obvious he is trying to.
2007-01-14 14:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by radarjet67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's still alive, so no, you didn't over do it! Lol. You are in every right to kick him out. The fact that his Aunt knew about his cheating and was following you.. doesn't look like a great family to be in in the first place. My ex was the same way, constantly blaming me of cheating on him, when it turned out he was the cheater... I think it's a way of taking the blame off themselves. Good luck to you!
2007-01-14 14:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly did not over do it. A very common sign of someone cheating is when they consistently accuse their partner of cheating. Hell he even had his aunt follow you? He was the one in the rong..he ruined his own life and dont let them convince you of anything different. Power to you for standing up and kicking him out. He was accusing you of cheating to alleviate his guilt and he only has himself to blame. Tell his rude family that if they want to continue to call you a cheater aside from the facts that you do not want your children around them. That will make them hate you a bit more but hopefully it will straighten up their act..you do not want them impressing your children with a bad impression of you either.
2007-01-14 14:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all sound like a bunch of babies, and for sure you don't have a marriage..... as defined as being Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust. You don't trust him, he doesn't trust you his family doesn't trust you, and for sure you and he have no mutual respect or admiration for each other.... This ain't marriage, hon.... this is a live in occasional boinking buddy......Why are you bothering? Either get some help for you 'relationship' if each of you feel it is worth saving, or get out.... you both must loooovvvveeee pain waaaayyyy tooooo much, hon. If I thought the guy was cheating, I'd get conformation, and flee the scene. Betrayal is the only deal buster in a marriage... most everything else can be fixed, or negotiated.
2007-01-14 14:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you over did it. This is between you and your husband....not your husbands aunt, and the rest of his family. How did you find out he was cheating? Keep a journal, they come in handy for court. He was lying to his family about you cheating to cover up his own, he's a loser, and so is his aunt.
2007-01-14 14:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was anything of any value in this relationship I would encourage you to try to save it. But I don't see anything redeeming at all. Sounds like your hubby is a freak and so is his family.
Now your work is not to take this guy back and you've got to figure out why in hell you ended up with a man like that. Something wrong with him for sure but ya gotta look at you also. You picked that loser.
And oh my, you've got kids with this jerk. Oh boy... Try to be nice about him in front of the kids. Try hard for their sake, not his. He's an @$$ but he's still their father.
Get on with your life and don't take him back. Look into what's up with you that you would choose a man like that. If you don't, you'll just do it again with another jerk. Work on yourself.
Good luck.
2007-01-14 15:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way did you over do it. Even if neither one of you cheated, he still has some control issues as well as a self confidence problem. And there is some serious issues with his family too...it's absolutely none of their business what goes on in your marriage and they need to butt out.
2007-01-14 14:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by blkmagikwmn83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE COULDN'T BE THE ONE WRONG BECAUSE THEN HIS FAMILY WOULDN'T HRLP HIM. YOU ARE DOING WHAT IS RIGHT AS LONG AS YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. AND IF HIS FAMILY DOESN'T WANT TO BELIEVE YOU THEN THAT'S FINE BUT IN TIME IT WILL ALL COME OUT IN THE IN IT ALWAYS DOES. CHEATER ALWAYS HAVE TO MAKE IT OUT THAT THE OTHERS DOING IT BECAUSE THEN PEOPLE QUIT LOOKING AT THEM AND IT'S EASIER FOR THEM TO CHEAT. AND STICK WITH WHAT YOU ARE DOING BECAUSE IF HE CHEATS ONCE HE WILL DO IT AGAIN
2007-01-14 14:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you're right. BTW you have no idea how nasty they're about to get with the divorce. Watch yourself, don't go out with the girls, don't leave the kids alone to take out the garbage. They will twist the situation to fit their opinions and then will swear to it in court.
2007-01-14 14:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not over do it. YOU R RIGHT. How dare he accuse you of Cheating and he is the cheating. How can you have a realationship without trust. I hope you find someone better, cause you derserve better.
2007-01-14 14:31:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋