i went on my husbands old email account to print some pics and found a unread email from his old gf kate.he never uses this email account thats why it was unread.i opened it and this is what it said-how are you? it was good to see you even if you did give me the cold shoulder.your girls are so big! kate my husband never told me he ran into her and i don't want to tell him she sent him a email.kate is not just any old gf they have a long history together to long to explain here plus he left his last wife and child for her.as far as i know he has not had any contact with her since we got married 2yrs ago but shes still local and single(looked up her myspace account)my questions are why did she send this email to my husband after they just ran into each other most likely in a store?why did she make a coment about him giving her the cold shoulder,i know my husband hes nice to everyone what was she looking for a kiss?
2007-01-14 06:14:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He gave her the cold shoulder because he isn't interested in her, what i would be thinking about is,, he left his now ex wife to be with her and he had kids? I would be very parnoid about that, i can see why you would be fearful, i myself wouldn't have even gotten with a guy that cheated. Just me, i don't believe i would trust him either.
2007-01-14 06:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like the second time he left her (when he left his wife and kids for her), that was it for her as far as he was concerned.
If he gave her the cold shoulder, then he most likely wants nothing to do with her. It could be that she wanted a kiss but he just totally ignored her so there wasn't even a chance she could try.
The whole tone of the email sounds like she was spurned, shunned, or whatever phrase you want to use.
I wouldn't even worry about it if I were you.
Also, if it is on the "old email that he doesn't use" then obviously she isn't someone that he particularly cares to keep in touch with. Otherwise she would have a current email address for him.
Just explain what you were doing and that you found the email and see what his reaction is. You know him better than any of us, so you should be able to make the call from there.
If I got an email from an old gf that sounded like that, I would laugh and think how pathetic she must be for sending something that lame.
2007-01-14 06:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Goyo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him about it. Don't make it out like a big deal, just tell him what heppened, you were going to do pics and found the email, and did he not mention running into her because he thought you would get upset?
From the email I would guess that him giving her the cold shoulder is a good sign, it shows he still loves you and doesn't want to jeopodize what you two have by starting to talk to this ex again.
I wouldn't worry about it, but I would come forward and tell him that you found the email on accident, and you wanted him to know that you saw the email. That lets him know you're not trying to hide anything, and hopefully he'll do the same.
Good Luck!
2007-01-14 06:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by xadric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound as if she is trying to rekindle something yes...
This is what I would do... 1. delete the email
2. Casually say to hubby, we have not heard from... recently , I wonder what she is up to nowadays. His response might give u a clue about what he thinks, ie if he does not mention seeing her.
However remember the email said he gave her the cold shoulder, so I don't think there is anything to worry here.
2007-01-14 06:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read my wife's email's a few years ago and discovered she had been having affairs with at least 7 men for months...Not a good thing to pry into someone else's world....let him tell you....my world has been totally shattered and I dont think I will ever recover...had I not read the mail, I would have never known....
2007-01-14 06:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gave her the cold shoulder is probably a good sign, no? Why are you worried? Oh wait, you should, because you snooped into his private emails. I don't think you should be concerned about your husband. You should probably feel insecure when she appears on your front door someday or 'bump' into you guys when you're out in public.
2007-01-14 06:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to my understanding, i think you have nothing to worry about.
she already give you the clue(your husband is giving her a clod shoulder).
i don't think your husband will have anything to do with her,she is history to him as far as i understand your question.
don't give her any chance to come back,love your husband the way he will find irresistible and make your home a peaceful and conducive place he will find running to every day.
don't go asking him about Kate,she is nobody to him any more if not he would have told you he ran in to her,let sleeping dog lye.
get more close to your husband,let him know you will always love him more than any Kate out there.
good luck.
2007-01-14 06:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by bright 247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lack trust in your husband, with so little evidence as this, perhaps you should leave.
Her motives are not at issue. Your husband isn't an automaton who simply reacts, if he isn't trustworthy, then leave. If he is, then why is this an issue at all???
2007-01-14 06:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he gave her the cold shoulder, how did she get his e-mail address? but if he did give her the cold shoulder, then he is not interested in her anymore,so be thankful for that.
2007-01-14 06:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by mare t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that they just wanted to keep in touch but morely its just a friendly relationship or something because I dont think its too serious but I think he just wants to be friends with her but she wants to be more than friends with him well I hope this helps.
2007-01-14 06:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by miley_fan9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋