Why do men still get married ?

Question

Why do you think some men still get married despite of the numerous unhappy, sexless marriages and high divorce rates which basically mean a life of misery and poverty for the average man ? What distinquishes those men from the ones that choose not to get married ? Lack of knowledge ? Are they hopeless romantics ?

Answer 1

I am sorry that you have had such bad luck with relationships. The ones that you describe are not the norm otherwise nobody would bother trying. I know many people including myself who have been happily married for a long time. You should maybe invest in some therapy and deal with the issues that seem to make you so incredibly bitter and unhappy. You have a lot of resentments towards females and this seems to have influenced you emotions. Sit down with a good counselor and start processing what you have experienced and perhaps one day you will be blessed. You also need to know how to respect another and develop a mature relationship with a female that is based on love, mutuality, and tolerance. You sound like an extremely needy man and I urge you to find some help as soon as you can.

Answer 2

I dont think anyone goes into a marriage preparing for divorce unless it's for some sort of 'political' arrangement. Most men and women marry and at that time, truely believe that they will be with the other person for the rest of their lives.

Marriage is a personal choice. Many people are still religious and feel that they want to have their union sanctified in they eye of their god. Many people I'm sure are still romantics and believe that marriage is a way of sealing their relationship and letting the world and each other know it's forever. Many people do it because they decide 'it's time' and it's what they see as the logical 'next step' in their commitment routine.

However, more and more people are seeing that there is no need for marriage. It isn't something that everyone desires as part of their relationship.

I've read some of your posts here and know that you are deeply concerned about your finances and protecting them from women, which is entirely your right. I'd adivse you to look into what criteria constitutes 'common law' marriage in your area and protect yourself from that also. That's a way they'll get your money even if they didn't get the great big f**k off diamond and a walk down the aisle before you split!

I think a pre relationship financial agreement would work for you. It's the only way you will be sure any of us will keep our grubby mitts off of your fortune!

Karma.
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Answer 3

Stats say that approximately eighty% of guys have had affairs and perhaps round 50% of ladies. Men dishonest don't have anything to do with a completely happy or unsatisfied house. It has to do with biology. Men are biologically polygamous. They want form. There is a truly intent why there are 12,000 topless golf equipment and prostitution is the worlds oldest career. Hookers will inform you that married guys make up eighty% or extra in their industry. And they wil additionally inform you that they've stored or increased moremarriages than any marriage counsellor. Another bit to your interest, divorce is within the 50% to 60% variety besides amoung swingers whre it's round 10% or much less.

Answer 4

Its a fact married men have more sex then single men... or should I say more sex with a real live woman :oD Plus I know a few guys who have taken the single road and it is a lonely one, you don't stay young forever but the girls who frequent the pub do and soon enough those one night stands of companionship become few and far between.

My advice is that a smart man will get married to a woman who is their friend and partner, one who will challenge him, support him and love him. We all need companionship, it just has to be the right person. Find that and it will not be a life of misery and poverty.

Answer 5

Come now keep talking like that and you'll continue on the down swing and you don't want to do that. Did you ever consider people live in "misery" and "poverty" in their marriages because they only brought half-a-person to it. They did not think things through; just grabbed the bull by the horns so to speak. Hey grabbing the bull by the horns that's my style, yet I study the bull first. Now before I married my husband I made sure I loved myself, I made sure I accepted all of my flaws, I did not expect him to fulfill some sort of whimsical fantasy and, or what have you. There's probably more to say; anyways, I got the jist of it.
What I am saying is perhaps the lack of knowledge is what we don't have of ourselves. No one should enter a serious relationship without some very deep soul searching. No one should enter a marriage and, or relationship with knowing themselves, loving themselves and accepting all things about them. Above all never enter a serious relationship through rose-colored glasses.

Answer 6

Ignorance is not just for men. Many women make bad marriage decisions. Who do you think these "poor forsaken" men who lead "a life of misery and poverty" have married? Women, obviously. They can't be thrilled at their crappy choice either.

Ignorance is not bliss. What drives me nuts is that upon marrying, many people CANNOT WAIT to have kids before they even realize their marriage was a mistake. Then things get ugly. And they have only themselves to blame.

Answer 7

No guy I know who is divorced is living in poverty, unless he was poor before the divorce (and before he was even married). That being said, I can only answer your question from experience. My husband got married because he found someone who loves him with all her heart, and whom he loves just as much. My husband comments all the time about how "miserable" his life would be with out me. According to him, his standard of living would not be anywhere what it is now if he were single. He says he would probably live in an unkempt hovel, eating lousy food, he would not be nearly as healthy as he is, lonely, no one to listen and care about how his day went, no one to encourage him, praise him, or console him, no one to make him feel appreciated and like he was the best man on earth...no one to love. He even says he would not be nearly as successful. My husband is not unhappy (or sexless--I put out! ; )). We are both improved because of our marriage...we are both better people because of it.

Answer 8

Unfortunately, I think some men still get married to please their moms and to give their parents the grandchildren they never stop asking for. I have heard more than a few men say they felt pressured into marriage by family remarks. I also think the weight of carrying on the family name may be a reason some men feel it necessary to get married.
More people need to have prenuptial agreements before they slap on the shackles. I know they are not 100% air tight but having one is better than not.

Answer 9

Like speeding in a car, men who marry think "it won't happen to me".
The truth is, that the odds are just as you say, he will wind up alone, far below a standard of living that befits his earnings, with his children living with his ex and paying her for the 'privledge'.

The saying that "men are not complete until they are married, then they are finished" is true.
Until courts and society begin treating men equal to women, this will only get worse until men stop getting married altogether.

Answer 10

I find that most of my male friends start to feel their biological clocks ticking around their late 20s or early 30s; they start buying houses, proposing to their girlfriends, and thinking about names for their hypothetical children. Divorce rates don't deter them; there's no escaping our instincts and biological drives. Even those who have been married and divorced before want to get married again.

My male friends who don't ever get married by the time they're in their late 30s or so are usually gay.

I don't know if these patterns hold true everywhere, but this is what I've noticed.

(And just so you know, I have no intention of getting married. I guess my biological clock just hasn't kicked in yet.)