How would you handle a dispute between you and your mate about your child's best interest?

Answer 1

This is kind of vague because if it was a school issue, I'd say meet with your child's teacher and maybe he/she could help you resolve it. But the question is so vague it's impossible to answer it.

Answer 2

If it is an ongoing dispute, a session or two or 18 with a counsellor helps. That's what we've had to do. Basically we should try to support one another, never let the child see your conflict, understand the reason for your mate's position, acknowledge it, act with maturity, consult prayer, stay calm and remember that the child is a product of love and shouldn't be the source of conflict. Its a hard thing. I'm there and we need a third non biased party or else we can argue until we retire and are old and gray.

Answer 3

Agree to disagree. Smile about it though. Try to talk it out and find a small area of compromise. Then the lines of disagreement will soften.Tread softly.
Children are a sensitive subject and should be handled with love and alot of communicating between parents and or your mate. Strife and pull and tug between the 2 of you creates discomfort. Children do not need added negativity. They sense everything.

Answer 4

First off, you need to be ready to listen to your mate, REALLY listen. I would tell my mate that I really need to get this issue resolved as it is causing conflict and hurt. Agree to a time when you both can set aside several hours to discuss the issue, agreeing that it may not take that much time, but you want to have that time set aside just in case it does - give the problem the respect it deserves.

First, agree that you both have the best interest of your child at heart. Getting that said, even though you may think it is obvious, will set a tone of collaboration, not confrontation.

Then, tell your mate that you really want to hear their side of the issue and why they feel the way they do so you want them to have as much time as they need to explain their thoughts on the topic. Listen intently, don't be using this time to formulate your retorts, you need to respect your mate's point-of-view if you want them to do the same. Acknowledge points that he/she is making that are correct.

After he/she has finished, thank them for being so honest and for helping you both work on the situation. Then, ask if you can take some time to explain your point-of-view. When you do that, don't be accusatory, blaming, or snide.

After you have both had your time to explain, tell your mate that you would like to work with him/her to develop a way to compromise on the situation. Tell him/her what about their explanation you found that would work, then ask for the time to explain why you don't think other things would work and work on making a compromise. Be ready to toss aside things in your point of view that aren't that important.

Go into the situation really wanting to find a compromise, instead of really wanting to win. If you just want to win, you really don't have your child's best interest at heart, you have your own as a priority.

Answer 5

1. I think it is pretty pathetic that you are fighting about such stupid things.

2. Ask your kid what he like and is into

3. Do you really want your kid to she the two of you fight just think what your child goes through seeing the two most important people in his life fight.

Answer 6

if its your child then you do what you think is best, advice off friends can be helpful but if it becomes interference instead of advice then ignore it do your own thing. who is more important the child or the friend.

Answer 7

well most of the time, mother knows best.

Answer 8

YOU KNOW WHAT, HANDLE YOUR OWN CHILDREN. DONT GET ADVICE FROM STANGERS ON HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR BRATS. YOU HAD THEM, DEAL WITH IT.