Why would a young woman love and marry and older man?

Question

I am curious about motivations as i intend to get me one.

Answer 1

Women like older men because they are established in life. They have a steady job, a house, nice car, and they know who they are as a person. We women don't want to deal with the hassle of the young drunk and stupid boys. That's why my fiancee is 8 years older. And you older guys love us younger women! We aren't worn out like the older ones and we like to have fun!

Answer 2

What do you mean why? Why would a young woman love and marry a younger man? Sure, for some women an older man means stability, but I know from personal experience love knows no age.
There are superficial perks to marrying a young man and superficial perks to marrying an old man. It's not about age.

Answer 3

If an age gap is about 8/10y years it could be genuine love cause some look for older mature man, if age is more then 20y then i believe its money . few examples many old man get women from Thailand,Philippines, Russia, young and beautiful some find a age gap of 5/9y some find 15/20y age gap, many of the big age gap use these man and part after they get there visa,usually 2/5y wait, the small age gap tend to survive the couples for long.
some mite stay depending how rich the guy is.

many people have good intentions as many have bad intentions, so its not easy to find out if she truly love you,unless you take her on a lie detector machine,lol beside with this materialistic world to day you cant trust much.

Answer 4

Women may fall in love with an older man because she may have grown up without knowing her father or any other male guardian. She may be searching for someone to be romantic with as well as a father figure that she never had while growing up. Another possibility is that since it has been said that girls mature faster than guys do, she may have dated younger guys before and felt like they were too immature for her, so she looks for someone older, more mature, more experienced than younger guys. Older people have more knowledge about life so that may be the case as well. Another possibility is that she may want to settle down too. So, those are the motivations as to why younger women may want to spend the rest of their lives with older men.

Answer 5

Who knows why, I mean sometimes they fall in love. Other times the woman is looking for security and support and would settle with an older man. Older men are more mature and stable - most of the times- and that sometimes attracts women to them.

Answer 6

A smart young woman knows that a older man is more stable, dependable,more mature,better lover, these are very important assets that most young men do not have.

Answer 7

Glad you're back to discuss this more! Shows you're really putting a lot of thought into it :)

SOME women do choose older men for ulterior motives, so just be careful...but there are some good ones out there (think/HOPE I am one of them)...

Older men can be patient with their partner, both emotionally and intimately, and less of a chance they will rush on to the "goal" in bed without pleasing their partner.

Older men generally have their sh...tuff together and are less of a drain on their partner, both emotionally and financially.

Older men have been through the drama and are less likely to participate in it or create problems - last bf (4 year relationship) was my age (32) and that's all I got - also, he thought he was gods greatest gift for some reason - so did his mom - and should be the one to be served and catered to. With older men, they have learned from past relationships and are more likely to GIVE and take in a relationship instead of just TAKING. My boyfriend now is having his 50th in a couple weeks and is thoughtful down to the smallest details :)...things most people would generally overlook, but he notices. He also speaks kindly to me, even if he disagrees. He jokes around alot, too - takes small things not so seriously and doesn't make a big deal out of basic human foibles. The nice thing is that although he is older and "wiser", he isn't controlling and doesn't try to make decisions for me or judge me like last bf was/did. He respects that I have ideas, opinions, goals, activities of my own - he ENHANCES my life instead of supplanting his will for my own.

Another point to note is about these two best friends I have...both are single, in their 50's and PERFECT for each other if they'd just realize it :) My best male friend is divorced and has no children because his former wife couldn't have them...he dates somewhat younger women and he has expressed a desire to have children but it isn't a driving need. On the other side is my best female friend...she seems to date younger men who are not very mature, is divorced and has two beautiful grandchildren. Both are wonderful people and need someone to take care of them and share their life with...I am tempted to play matchmaker because they NEED each other. I am sure of it, introduced them last night and am watching the "situation" closely...lol - they seem to like each other and I saw a "thoughtful" look on my male friend's face and my female friend has expressed an interest in him as well.

I am not saying you should find someone "your own age" - I am actually the person you rated best answer with your other question. I am just saying that you should not limit things so drastically to one particular age group. Also, consider that you don't want to overwhelm or be overbearing if you do find someone younger. Other than that I wish you all the best of luck and hope I have helped in some small way.

Answer 8

Well I am in a relationship with an older guy 12 year difference and I actually love him for who he is and when people bring up his age the only thing i say is age is nothing but a number.Plus ,sometimes it is about the maturity level you both are on ,if you guys are on the same level in achieving goals and etc.

Answer 9

Older guys are more mature and ready to take on more responsibility. I'm 31 and my hubby will be 48 next month. Been together for almost 7 years.

Answer 10

Your niece is a hot mess, and it has nothing to do with her husband's age. Plenty of age gap couples are in it for love. Myself included. My husband is 18 years older than me. We are both professionals with well paying careers and have very similar goals and outlooks on life, we enjoy the same things, just because he was born a couple generations before me hasn't had any ill effects on our relationship, which has been 9 years and counting. The only difference we have is our actual age, which in our relationship is just a number. You may not understand the attraction and love in their relationship, and that is fine, it is their relationship not yours. You are an outsider. The best thing you could do is suggest counseling for your troubled niece.