my son is 17...
2007-01-14 05:53:43 · 36 answers · asked by jbosakue 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
good on him. he should be playing the field
2007-01-14 05:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Troubled Joe(the ghost of) 6 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Being a teenager is a learning experience. Just let it run its course. They'll find out in the end, and he won't like to be in the situation when it happens, so he will learn from his experiences.
If you get involved, or start imposing your views on his experience, he'll use you as a scapegoat for things going wrong and hate you. He won't learn that being with two girls is wrong, he'll just learn not to tell mum about it.
As a 17 year old boy, he certainly isn't mature enough for a serious relationship, or he wouldn't be doing this. You can't make someone be mature, they have to get there by learning.
So let him learn. Remember, although they look grown up at that age, he's still a kid. The best you can do in this situation is to be there for him when he needs you, because although he might not show it, there'll be times when he does.
Good luck! x
2007-01-15 10:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by Auroraini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a womans duty to teach there sons how to treat a lady properly!
Bless him, he's 17 and probably having the time of his life, but i think you should sit down and explain to him that one of these girls is going to get really hurt which inturn will cause him a lot of agro and hassle. He needs to know the rewards that come from a good relationship, and if you treat a girl well we'll be very very nice!
I dont think its unhealthy as such, but i dont think its the right attitude for a seventeen year old to have.
2007-01-17 10:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by cynical kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol typical lad ay?? Well aslong as he knows about the birds and the bees then there is nothing you can do...no matter what you say to him he isnt going to listen. Suppose you could still try and feed him some wise words, but other than that, just make sure hes 'playing' safe...he might end up with more than one baby :O:O AT THE SAME TIME !!!
2007-01-17 07:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by SoldiersGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when both the girls find out about each other I can tell you they are going to be very upset and there parents are going to be upset as well and are going to assume your son as a trashy male whore.
you really need to sit him down and have a talk with him, he is putting himself at a higher risk of getting an STD or getting 2 girls pregnant and what he is doing to these girls is not fair, they are going to be heart broken when they find out he is cheating.
I can not beleive some of the responces from some of these people and I am assuming the ones with the dumb comments such as good on him or dumbass teenagers, this boy is playing with two girls emotions and that si not right, he should be ashamed.
2007-01-14 06:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unless engaged to marry, are we not free to see whoever we wish? He should go around with a lot of people his own age. Do the girls not have other boyfriends? They should have a chance to meet and be with as many people as they can... how else are they to make any intelligent decisions about who to eventually choose.... I have seen young people locked into their relationships only to bust out of them, much to their dispair...
Your son is only 17 ... he needs to know people, to look around .. it is not time to settle down ... it is time to circulate ...it is not about finding a girlfriend, it is about finding the right girlfriend...
Peace!
2007-01-15 07:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the two girlfriends about eachother! did you teach him to treat women with respect as he was growing up? ask him how he would feel if his dad was cheating on you? (assuming you are a woman and married) or vice versa. Tell him it is appauling behaviour and very irresponsible, I would be so angry if my son did this I would tell his girlfriends at the drop of a hat.
2007-01-14 07:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your son if his girlfriends know about eachother, ask him if he is sexually active with both of them. If he feels that he has to hide them from eachother, then he knows that he is doing something wrong. Ask him if it is ok with him if his girlfriends had other boyfriends, if it is not ok, then why should he take pride in what he is doing. "What's good for the gander is good for the goose". If he is doing something wrong, then it is not healthy.
2007-01-14 15:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by ERIC W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? You would be upset surely if he told you he was planning on marrying one of them........you'd say he was far too young.
He is just going out with girls.........full stop. Plenty of time for the serious stuff. Don't interfere, or you'll lose his trust. Its no big deal.
2007-01-17 08:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is young and wants to explore different thing, if you disagree with him on this issue the more of a rebel he will become, you can let him know that with two girlfriends come twice the drama!!
2007-01-14 05:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by court 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well ,its not the ideal, but i would rather my son was doing this at 17 years old, rather than when he is married!
2007-01-14 06:09:25 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋