My friend and I have been growing apart. When I had called her out on her behavior (mostly regarding her lies) she and I spoke even less. There was about a month and a half where neither of us made contact, or should I say I didn't because I usually have to do it, but she sent me a text message wishing me a happy birthday and sent an online card. I honestly didn't expect her to acknowledge my birthday given that it appeared to me that she didn't want our friendship (due to numerous things and me calling her out).
To this day, nothing has changed. I call her or email her once a month to just catch up, but she doesn't make the effort to call or email me. I basically feel like I'm doing all the work. Her birthday is coming up and I'm debating about whether to text her a birthday message. Should I bother?
I really don't consider her a friend anymore because of what she's said and done to me so I don't know that it's even worth my time. Just need another opinion. Thanks!
2007-01-14 05:49:45 · 13 answers · asked by Majesty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She and I were best friends a few years back, but she started lying to me and violating my trust so I spoke to her about it. She said she has "flaws" but doesn't intend to fix them. She also said "I don't cut people out of my life, I just ignore them until they go away." So I feel like I'm being ignored...and maybe I should just go away.
Guess I'm very bitter that she abused my friendship, violated my trust, and took advantage of my kindness given that I did a lot for her and supported her through difficult times. It's like it doesn't even matter.
2007-01-14 06:08:22 · update #1
Doing things for a friend shouldn't feel like it's a chore, so if you're feeling like you're doing "work", then that probably means your instincts are telling you that doing these things aren't helping, and that you should let go of it. It takes two to save any relationship, and obviously, your friend isn't doing her part.
2007-01-14 05:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by Irene \m/. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 00:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to you but being the other friend. I made a big mistake in a friendship that I had since school. I do call her like once a month and we talk and catch up. We have different lifestyles and interests. But we catch up on each others lives. I think that she is embarrased to talk to you or maybe she feels bad. You might want to forgive her and let her know. Just because you forgive her it does not mean you have to be best friends anymore unless that is what you two want.
2007-01-14 05:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly do not consider her a friend anymore, why bother? If you would like to give it one last shot before you move on, it would not hurt to send her some good wishes for her birthday, then if you still feel the same way you will know you have given the relationship all you could. A word of warning though, sending her wishes may encourage her towards you.... if you expect she will not improve I think it may be time to shine this one on.
2007-01-14 05:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u shouls still send her a birthday message, nothing major has happenned here, it just seems that u are growing apart a little at the moment... no big deal, do it, you guys were good friends once and it could happen again
2007-01-14 06:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she doesnt acknowledge it you should send her a card, knowing that you have done the right thing.
2007-01-14 05:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by reshadow31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes be the bigger person and hit her up with a birthday message...it might just bring the 2 of you closer again
2007-01-14 05:52:58 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if shes that bad i say no, but u shud talk it out, i mean i think that a true friend wud actually give u something, why is she lying talk it out and if shes worth it then give her something. MY ADVICE BE THE BIGGER PERSON AND GIVE SOMETHING
2007-01-14 05:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really care for your friend then yes i would recommend that you send her a postcard. but if you don't care then don't send one. it's as simple as that!
2007-01-14 05:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by Rebeldegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes send him/her az soon az posible
dont dubt it.
2007-01-14 05:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by Jafar helper!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋