Almost always, a shy person gets mistaken for an arrogant person, who does not want to hang out with anybody and only chooses their friends, although, this may seem as no big deal, it is a problem for the person, trust me, I used to have that problem in high school and even the first year of college… it’s another problem that I’m a girl and guys who were interested never made a move ‘cuz my shyness was reflected as “I’m too good for you” which is everything but what I really am as a person… I wanna know what people think about people who have that problem and if you had the same problem how did you overcome it?
2007-01-14 05:44:13 · 7 answers · asked by same_johanson 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
YES!!! I get mistaken as being stuck up and I'm not that way at all! I'm just so shy, I get so nervous my belly aches! I know it's weird!
2007-01-14 06:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by JůnəßůĢ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm just like you said you were; however I never thought of it as a problem, so I never felt compelled to overcome it; I'm shy, very very social though; it's impossible for me to make the first move but once the ice's broken I show all my warmth; some people do actually get misled by my shy attitude and think I'm stuck up, eventhough that's not the case at all; to me that's never been a problem though: superficial people who judge the others by impressions are not interesting to me; so, they can think whatever they want about me, I just don't care;) those capable and willing to go beyond impressions easely understand that I'm just shy and not stuck up, and those are the people I love to have around me;)
2007-01-14 13:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem!!! Some peoples gegt it... I'm totally crazy in small groups, but when I'm in class and stuff I'm all shy!! I don't know why. I think it's because I moved and had to start over with no freinds. I used to be way shy until about 4th grade and than I moved and am shy again... I don't really care what people think about me. I just am shy all of a sudden and hate it!! I personally tihnk I'm not very self-absorbed, but whatever.
2007-01-14 13:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by taco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I have the same problem and have yet to overcome it...although I'd like to think that I'm getting better with people. I really don't know.
2007-01-14 13:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by buttercup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose I'm in the process of overcoming it all. I was labeled as "stuck up" "stupid" and a "*****" for choosing not to date or go to dances and other activities in school, or choosing to speak to people. A lot of girls chose to think that I was full of myself and saw me as competition. I was almost beat up for simply not replying to girls that wanted to pick a fight, most of them getting upset because I thought that I was better than them. Some days I didn't know if that's how I really felt, or it was because they made me seem that way. I was raised in a First Nation reservation, they always saw me as an outsider for chosing to speak English. It's not that I had much of a choice, I was raised by my mother who only speaks English. They labeled me as an "apple", and immediately assumed that I thought that I was better than them. I refused to drink, smoke, curse, and date. My peers were intimidated, thinking that I tried to be better than them. I didn't try to be better than anyone, I just wanted to be myself and not get into negative things.
I'm to the point where I don't care what anyone has to say or think of me. I will now defend who I am and what I have to say about a situation, unlike before. I have more confidence, and courage in what I have to say. I was quiet for so many years, I don't want to be that way forever. I think I changed when I got in a relationship. I refuse to be unheard and I want to say my side of the argument or my thoughts about something. I didn't want to be one of those girls in a relationship who never says how she feels about a situation. So I think this changed me. I refused to be silent in a relationship, and "shy" to defend myself, so I started to stand up for who I am what I have to say.
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2007-01-14 14:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My friend is going through this exact same thing right now but she's just shy
2007-01-14 14:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think shy people are entirely self-absorbed. They seem to be constantly thinking about how they feel, or how others feel about them, or what others think about them, or how others see them.
Judging by your question- it's true. You want to know what people think about you.
"Social nerves are natural, as long as they don't get out of hand. Focusing on them and making them into a 'big thing' will only make matters worse."
2007-01-14 13:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋