We just got married and we were all very Drunk...Do I do the same with her Husband? Do I get even or forget it?
2007-01-14 05:41:55 · 39 answers · asked by Nicky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do not go to kissing on her husband. That is definitely the wrong thing to do. Confront him with this behavior privately. If he denies it you then have another problem, that of honesty in your relationship. Try to work through it if he is willing to talk about it and both of you get some counseling.
2007-01-14 05:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by green3ch 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I saw my best friend and my husband kissing, drunk or not, I would tell my best friend how much she hurt me and stay away from her. Then I would keep a very close eye on my husband until I could trust him again. But, I know my best friend and she would NEVER do that to me, nor would my husband. You've got a problem, better do something about it now. And the revenge thing with her husband??? Don't do it. Also, it's not something that should be forgotten. Find new friends.
2007-01-14 06:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're off to a very bad start in your marriage. What are you doing getting so drunk that you're doing stupid things like this?
Sounds to me like you and your husband need to grow up and find some more mature friends as well. You and your husband are playing with fire and you're all going to get burned. Either grow up or get out of the marriage. Maybe you're not ready for marriage?
Sorry to be so harsh but shouldn't you be done with this childish crap when you're old enough to get married and make a long term committment to a person?
You've got some thinking to do. Your husband is a jerk but so are you for exposing yourselves to this situation. Stop drinking, it's obvious you and your husband can't handle it.
I truly wish you better success in your marriage but that's not going to happen without some serious intention on your part. If you don't work on this, you'll be divorced inside of two years.
Please get help.
2007-01-14 06:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drunk is not an excuse!!! I would no longer consider her your best friend either.
But retaliation, getting even, is not the solution to the problem. It is only expanding the problem.
And what kind of kiss was it? Seems you and your hubby need to have a long, quiet talk when both of you are calm and not under the influence.
Good luck. Just remember a marriage is like a job and requires constant work. People do make mistakes but can you forget and forgive.
2007-01-14 05:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even consider doing the same. Do not lower yourself. Talk with your husband first and then your best friend.
I honestly feel this would pretty much end the best friend relationship, no matter what she says or he says. It is best just not to be together with them again. I wouldn't say don't trust your husband but be alert for any signs of infidelity.
in all honesty it was probably just a kiss, but why even let the temptation ever come again.
I would feel sick to my stomach, but you must discuss it and go on. i doubt you will ever forget it.
2007-01-14 05:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by minion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you caught them and ask why it happened. Being drunk may explain the behavior but it doesn't excuse it. Talk to them together and let them know how it effected you. Then either accept their apology and forget about it or plan your next move. I will tell you from experience though...getting even is not all it's cracked up to be. Think hard before even considering this as a option!
2007-01-14 06:35:02 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say goodbye to both and be glad you caught them. No good husband or good friend would do this. No matter how drunk. That is just an excuse and a poor one at that. If you let this slide you are in a world of hurt and it will be your own fault for sticking around waiting for it to happen.
2007-01-14 05:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of the above. You are in a grown up relationship now. You talk to your husband about what happened and you explain to him that you and he will no longer be drinking with your best friend. If it is an issue, you need to rethink the marriage. My husband and I have been married for 15 years, and he has never kissed another woman, drunk or sober.
2007-01-14 05:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by just browsin 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well first of all drinking is not an excuse. There must have been some feeling there before to lead to the kiss. I think you should put a red flag up and do not kiss her husband. What would that solve? I would talk to both of them and express your feelings and let them know that kind of behavior is not tolerate in your marriage.
2007-01-14 05:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't care how drunk you were your friend knows her boundries and should of never have done that nore should of your husband. You need to speak to both of them about this at separate times and tell them that it is not allowed and you will not tolerate that and if it happens again that they can have one another and you can find someone that can treat you the way your suppose to be treated. Do not get even or forget it, Even your just telling them it's o.k. let them know how angry you are!!
2007-01-14 05:53:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋