She is in grad school and very unhappy with her life and where we live right now. She has as many as 4 years left in the program. She thinks maybe she should go on anti-depressants. She has gained a lot of weight and is very lethargic, sad, and sometimes angry. I do not know how to advise her.
2007-01-14 05:41:03 · 29 answers · asked by Bud A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try finding out what she wants,..period. see what in Heavens name would make her happy,..see if you can get a spark from mentioning a trip to paris,...living in monterey california,...and walk along the black sand of Hawaii,..playing footsies on a carribean beach under a moom-lit sky. AND THEN DO IT!
2007-01-14 05:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is on the right track, going to the doctor and letting him decide what antidepressent she needs is the first step. A lot of women will also gain weight when depressed, we eat . She has a lot on her plate and you standing by her side will help her a lot. Tell her you will be glad to go to the doctor with her so that if she forgets to tell him anything you will be there to help her out.he will also do some bloodwork to find out why she is lethargic, could be low iron etc. Take her by the hand and get her to the doctor and make sure he does the bloodwork, I've been there and done that, I'm on meds. (paxil) and I am happy again and my normal self.
2007-01-14 13:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes uneducated people look at being on anti depressants as a stigma, but truely they should not. After all if you broke your leg wouldn't you go to have it casted? Depression is most often the cause of a hormonal imbalance. It is not all in your head it is very much a physical illness with a very real and physical cure. Be supportive of your wife's decision. Help her realize it is not her that has caused this but her body and that the meds will get her back to feeling like she used to before stress and environment set her out of whack.
2007-01-14 13:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Airlantiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I considered taking anti depressants while I was single parenting three children and attending school full time while trying to deal with the ignorant people around me who were trying to bring me down. Getting started on them was one of the best things I ever did not only for myself but for my family too. They got a better mother because I was happier. I still went to counseling because the pill is not going to magically make the problems disappear...they just help until you are better equipped mentally to cope with the every day struggles of life.
2007-01-14 13:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to support her decision. Go to you family doctor and ask him/her. St.Johns wort is a natural anti-depressant. You guys should join a gym together and work out a couple of times a week that will help her with her energy and is very beneficial. How many healthy people that work out and eat well are depressed? But you do need to go with her to the doctor.
2007-01-14 13:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by imdachef2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. I would certainly advise counselling. It may just be a case that your wife may feel a little overwhelmed by everything and feels she can't breathe and see the light at the end of the tunnel. I would constantly try to keep her eye on the prize at the end. Or she may be suffering from some sort of chemical inbalance. Again, I would seek counselling, if not for her, then for yourself.
2007-01-14 13:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by radarjet67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go talk to a doctor before going on anti-depressants. Depression is a seriuos thing and needs to be addressed. It is a chemical imbalance in the brain.
I think if your wife is admitting that she may need them, you need to support her, talk to her and be there for her. She really needs to talk to a doctor about it though, only the doctor can really advise her properly.
Good luck and I hope everything works out :)
2007-01-14 13:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by Newmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way she can get antidepressants here in the U.S. is through a doctor so if a doctor has diagnosed her to have depression then she NEEDS to take the anti depressants to get healthy. There is nothing that you can do except be supportive of her.
2007-01-14 15:12:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite counseling needed. She may have burnout which therapy can help with. In dealing with and talking about what she wants and needs in life, her doctor can figure out if its just environmental and temporary or something more serious. Anti depressants are not bad, many times they can be used short term to alleviate unmanageable stress. this helps the person think about what they want and need.
2007-01-14 13:47:47 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people they help and others they dont. Maybe she should get some kind of counseling. If you cant talk to her or she cant talk to you, someone needs to step in. But only her Dr can make the decision to put her on pills. I took anit-depressants for a few months and stopped on my own. I snapped out of the funk I was in, maybe she will too.
good Luck
2007-01-14 13:45:44 · answer #10 · answered by Heather H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she thinks that she needs it, then let her talk it over with a doctor first. But I think she might want to take them to escape her life as it is. Rather work on dealing with the issues that are causing her to be unhappy. and maybe get professional help.
2007-01-14 13:45:31 · answer #11 · answered by singsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋