She cheated on me, we have been seperated for about 5 month now. I feel like I am getting on with my life through therapy, modern chemistry, family, friends and a new love interest. However, I have mixed hollow fieelings about finalizing the divorce, anyone out there go through the same?
2007-01-14 05:39:39 · 9 answers · asked by Johnboy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is perfectly normal to wonder if we have made the right choice, even after the divorce is final, and for a time after. but if she cheated, even if u did take her back, your marriage could never be the same as it was. u will always know in your heart she chose someone else over u, and that choice brings u to where u are today. divorces always hurt, we will never stop caring for that person, as we spent many years with that person, and not all of them bad. but when betrayal is involved, we can't undo what's been done, and we usually can't get past that, and taking someone back who cheated would not be a good thing. just be a survivor of this, not a victim. u will get past it, just stay on the road, and soon all this will be in your past.
2007-01-14 10:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely! I think what you're feeling is totally normal when you've invested yourself for so many years. I went through a divorce with my husband of 15 years, it has been final for a year (we were seperated for two before that). I have since moved on, remarried, and love my life, but there is always a part of me that wonders if I could've done more to save that relationship.
What I have come to learn is that while I do care for him, and always will, there is a huge difference between caring for someone and loving them in a romantically, passionate way, and I just didn't/don't have those feelngs for him.
Good luck to you.....
2007-01-14 05:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a FINAL chapter in your life that is very hard to deal with even though you have moved on. But once you make it final the burden will be lifted and you are going to feel so much better. When I reached that "DAY" I cried for so long and didn't have a clue as to why it hurt so bad when I made the decision. But you realize that its over. it does get better. What you are feeling is normal.
2007-01-14 06:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is like dying. Part of you does die. But, the pain will lessen eventually. Life does go on, and things will get better. My ex wife cheated too, and the hardest thing for me to accept is that I was so wrong about her. I even got to deal with the fact that my own brother put a sex session with her ahead of being my brother. Even after 15 years, I still feel a sense of personal failure for allowing her to live, after hurting me as she did. But, since she is the mother of my children, I can't kill her.
2007-01-14 06:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my final papers come through, I had big tears in my eyes, eventhough they marked the end of a relation ship with a cheating lying little bas****rd of a man. When a door closes, it is sometimes hard and emotional, eventhough it is for a better thing. Good luck! Enjoy the rest of your life
2007-01-14 06:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a turning point in your life, of course there are mixed feelings.Totally normal. Take care.
2007-01-14 05:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by ms bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steer your ship straight ahead and forget the storm you went thru...every human is entitled to be happy....go for happy, forget sad.....sorry to hear this, but the beat goes on.....good luck
2007-01-14 05:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by The Emperor of Ecstasy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't had your closure, that is why you feel like that. She shouldn't have done that to you. Now you both have to start over again. She ruined your relationship, so don't look back.
2007-01-14 05:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal...just stay on track and good luck
2007-01-14 05:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋