how do you get over your biggest fear?how did you get over it?

Question

my biggest fear is being put down, looked a funny, talked bad about by my peers. it sucks but its high school. i want to be on my own and not care what others think. theres a girl i kinda like but the only thing holdin me back it what others would think of her. my friends would rag on me forever, and i dont think i could take it. shes not the prettiest or the best or hottest so i wanna try and make it work and not worry about others. plz help me out here.

Answer 1

HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER AND BE CONFIDENT ,..WOMEN WILL COME TO YOU

being put down is for losers.

Answer 2

Is how you feel even making an impact on what you choose? If this girl is someone you want in YOUR life then your friends or so called friends will have to accept your decision. Although this is high school you need to look at this as your time for growing into a mature person. If she means a lot to you and you take a chance with her and she feels the same why hold back? Look at your feelings for awhile give it a few weeks when your alone think of all the positives that a relationship with her would bring. Then think of the negatives and balance these answers. You will also have to speak to a very very close friend or family member and get their input as well to see if they think you have looked at all the pros and cons and have made the right decision. People in highschool love to put each other down. If you let them stop you from finding a good girl for you now then you will be pushed into other things when you are older that you don't want. If your friends are truly your friends they would back you up no matter what the consequences are.

Answer 3

High school can be brutal. So just get through it and put it behind you. That's all you can do, really. The philosopher Nietzsche uttered the famous phrase, "what doesn't kill me makes me stronger". And there's the old Arab proverb, "the dogs bark, but the [camel] caravan moves on." But a few suggestions to eliminate fear and anxieties. Ignore the yappers. Treat everyone with respect. Choose your friends carefully. Be nice to the not so good looking chicks. Go out of your way to assist anyone with a disability. Never speak in a negative way about anyone at any time. If you can't say something good about someone, close your mouth. Dress conservatively. Form a study group. Study groups are cool for a number of reasons. You only accept the best and brightest which certainly excludes "the beautiful people", and chicks really dig smart guys. Trust me on this one, my friend. Brains beats muscles every time. Have you thought about taking some classes at a local community college while still in high school? If you're good they'll let you. And don't get fixated on one chick. Huge, huge mistake, most of the time. But, hey, she might be "The One"....or she might be looking at you as a sperm donor. The trick is to treat all the girls the same. All races, sizes, ages, and levels of attraction. Be attentive. Shut up and listen. Girls don't want to talk about you, they want to talk about themselves. So shut your mouth and open your ears. Don't talk about yourself much or discuss your own achievments. Be self-effacing if you do. Get other people to talk about themselves and always be ready with a kind remark and a compliment. Always be a gentleman. Treat the Beautiful People like everyone else. They have more anxieties and insecurities than most. Amuse yourself by playing the role of a Participant Anthropologist and spotting the Alpha Males and Females in any group. Observe how other people act and react when they're around. Who defers to whom and why. And the real secret to getting babes to really dig you? As I mentioned above, get 'em talking about their favorite subject: themselves. Listen intently. Ask questions at the right time. Remember what they say so the next time you see them you can jumpstart the conversation way easy. ("So how's your auntie? She's better, I hope?) And one other thing. Makes more friends with adults than with people your own age. When I was a kid all my friends were adults. One of the best ways is to do volunteer work somewhere. Or go to a retirement home and talk to the old folks for a couple hours per week. Take an old lady some flowers. They'll love you for it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Who cares what THEY think. You are the one you have to please, not them. Live your life to suit you. Why would you not want to be happy because your "friends" don't like your pick of a girlfriend? If they are TRUE friends, they won't make fun of you or her. This just shows how immature they really are. They THINK they are all that, but in reality, they aint ****.
Peer pressure is the greatest fear most kids your age have. Feelings of being rejected, of not being popular, etc. LIFE isn't a popularity contest. Be true to yourself. To hell with those imbecils. THEY WILL GROW UP someday...hopefully.
A few yrs. from now, half those idiots won't even be around you. Are they willing to stick around and keep you company when you are lonely, sick, tired, depressed? Doubt it. They are going to go on with THEIR lives as if YOU never existed. Take my word for it. Anyone can "go along" with the crowd. Doing what YOU want takes a "REAL" man. Maybe they should take a lesson from YOU on how to be a MAN>instead of a BOY.
Take a stand and SHOW them you aren't afraid of what they say or think. You'll be surprised how fast they come around to your way of thinking. Time they get some balls of their own.

Answer 5

facing your biggest fear is probably the hardest thing you have to do. you can't worry about what others think because if you do, youll be living a lie. youll never be doing what you really want to do, so just do whatever YOU want. dont do what others would do, dont be a follower.

Answer 6

You said it yourself but you have to be man enough to stand up to your peers to defend your actions. They may act like idiots in the beginning but once you show you are firm in your convictions, they will eventually respect you for it. I respect you already for having that determination. In my opinion, you are a real man.

Answer 7

you can't chose a girl depending on what other people think, as long as you like her you'll be ok, if you eventually let yourself be a mentally stonger human being you'll get over people's opinion of you and your actions, listen to the good advice, though

Answer 8

Your biggest fear is not them; it's you. You let other people control your emotion. Just tell your so-called friends that if they don't have anything nice to say about your girl, to keep it to themselves.

Answer 9

I was like that when I was in school just do all the babes even their sisters thats what I did and still do

Answer 10

It takes guts!!!!!!!!

The only way we can overcome our fears is to face them.

If we cower or run, they will always rule over us.