lisa's ex Matt is a total ****.
they went out for 5 months. and they split up in feb.
at the time we told her he was too young and immature. he is 19 and she is 22.
lisa has had 2 boyfriends since and she seemed to be ok.
he dumped lisa after she spent £240 organising his birthday nightout in front of everyone in a nightclub. matt then got back with his ex (who was then also working in the same place).
now matt is being crosstrained and they are working together and seeing more of each other.
lisa goes on and on about matt. she sometimes doesnt realise it.
she knows he wont get back with her but she is living in hope that matt will dump his girlfriend and get back with her.
lisa wont pull when she come out with us even tho she gets loads of interest from men and says she is out on the pull.
me and my friends are getting well fed up with this now. she seemed to have moved on. now shes gone backwards.
we dont want her to get hurt by him again.
what should we do?
2007-01-14 05:03:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let her live her own life and make her own mistakes. She won't thank you for interfering.
2007-01-14 05:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything really. You can warn her but at the end of the day it is her choice even if it is a mistake. You may have to be there to pick up the pieces that's what friends do. I would say though that you are worried about her and that he may hurt her again.
2007-01-14 05:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and make her understand that he is her ex 4 a reason it did not work the 1st time and will not work the second even more so he treated her like a peice of dirt and doesn't deserve her there is men out there willing to use but there is others willing to love you back
2007-01-14 21:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate that you mean well, but short of kidnapping someone, you have to know when to 'stand back.'
Express your displeasure, then mind your own business as it is her life and mistakes she's entitled to make.
If the shoe was on the other foot, how far would you let others put their noses in there?
If you care enough, then be there to pick up the pieces.
Sash.
2007-01-14 10:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, there's not much you can do.
She might need to learn the hard way.
Unless you know a very nice block you could try and match her with.
2007-01-14 06:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to make her own expierience, otherwise she will alway think, that it might had worked, when she tried it out.
tell her, that there is not much hope, but tell her also, that she has to manage her life by herself and decide whats good for her and what not
2007-01-14 05:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by andi m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let her get on with it.
Sometimes people have to learn by their own
mistakes. I know, it happened to me!
2007-01-14 21:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Minxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to let people live there own lives. just be there if she needs you thts what friends are for.
2007-01-14 05:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have the problem leave them to it
2007-01-14 05:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Snot Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please try to understand that i am not trying to be abusive with my answer,but what you can do is lead by example,and accept you cant do no more than show example
2007-01-14 05:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by meditation and mango juice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋