What I mean by that is do you choose to date outside your race to anger or draw attention to others? I worked with someone who dated a person of a different race only to get attention. She would change her voice around people of that other race in order to "blend" with them...
2007-01-14 04:51:25 · 14 answers · asked by mrs. savealot 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
BTW ,I was not the only one who saw these things in her. She was obviously changing her attitude and voice in front of other employees and even our supervisor.
2007-01-14 04:53:10 · update #1
No. I am colorblind when it comes to love. I do feel more comfortable when dating my own race, but that does not stop me from dating interacially if I like and care for the person. You just have to be prepared for when society or family both challenge you physically and mentally about so called laws and norms.
2007-01-14 06:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by bribri75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that generally people do date within their own race. Sometimes this is because they don't have the opportunity to meet people from other races (Lord, it's hard enough for me to meet a man of any race who interests me enough for me to want to date them!) A lot of the time, though, it is down to racism. When people say “I'm not racist but I don't find Black, White, Asian, or whatever people attractive” that is racism and it is built on cultural stereotypes about what is and what is not attractive(whether people are prepared to admit this or not). How do you know that this person was dating outside her race just to shock/anger people? Without knowing the details (e.g. whether she actually said this was why she was doing it), I would say that this perception can probably also be put down to racism – i.e. 'she must be doing it to shock people cos we all know that she couldn't really find him attractive'. Also, people very often change their attitudes and ways of talking depending on the social situation. Most people would not talk and behave in front of their friends/lovers the same way as they would at, say, a job interview or their kids parents evenings.
2007-01-14 12:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most of my dating life I dated strictly within my own race. Black men were who I knew and could relate to, plus I was taught that white men were evil and would only use and discard a black woman, and that I should never be anyone's ni-g-r in the wood pile. So I avoided white men like the plague because as far as I was concerned...they were.
Then I met a really sweet guy who was lots of fun to hang out with, treated me better than my last several boyfriends put together, and who liked the same things that I did. He also happened to be white. I decided that I was old enough to think for myself so I went out with him. I discovered that men are just men; regardless of race. All white men don't have the fangs, claws and tails that I'd been led to believe they did.
Now my dating decisions are dictated by the individuals rather than their skin color. And I've met quite a few really nice, interesting people that I'd have missed out on had I not decided to step out of my comfort zone.
2007-01-14 06:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by mztreasure999 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I only date within the human race.
2007-01-14 11:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't choose to date a certain race. But like I'd date Italians or European races. But I don't think I'd date an African American person. I'm not racist, I just couldn't see myself doing ta ht, like being attracted to a person with dark color. Now there are good looking African Americans but nothing that would make me jump them.
2007-01-14 05:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by Em 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I think that when you fall in love it doesn't matter the colour. I have friends from different races, Ived dates all races except for Asian(I'm not racist but they don´t attract me like that) I think its stupid to date someone to draw attention and to not act themselves because I´ved seen that and its quite pathetic.
2007-01-14 05:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't! I have a lot of friends that are a different race than me, and even though I wouldn't go as far as dating most of them (because we're JUST friends, you know?) , I like them for them and not their race or skin color.
2007-01-14 05:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by sowhatperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's stupid.
If you're physically attracted to a certain race and want to date them, that's okay, but just for attention? No.
2007-01-14 07:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by jasdlkdfhd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people date interacially for attention. In my dating years, I dated anyone who I found attractive, black, white, asian whatever. That said, I am generally more attracted to white women.
2007-01-14 05:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by Cracker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only reason I don't is because of my dad. Once I get 18, though...
2007-01-14 05:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Leafy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋