He is very egocentrical. He is not really loving and kind towards others. Little things that arent a very big deal that others do or if things dont go his way irritates him a lot.
All this actions arent admirable for me.
I dont care about talents, wealth or strenght of anybody, what matters to me the most is the content of their hearts, this is what never perishes, what keeps companionship warm and tender.
The actions that he has towards others he also does towards me sometimes, he raises his voice to me quite often, he picks at me, imitates me, between other things.
I am finding it very hard to hug or kiss him. Ive talked to him about this and he says I am just too sensitive, which makes me feel worse since he doesnt acknowledge anything and blames it on me.
2007-01-14 04:45:28 · 18 answers · asked by Alejandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Didn't you see this before you married him?
Perhaps it would be better if you divorced him.
2007-01-14 04:53:14 · answer #1 · answered by DavidNH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly all this did not instantly start the day after you married him.
He was "egocentrical" before you married him.
He was "not really loving and kind towards others" before you married him.
He raised his voice to you, picked at you, imitated you, and let little things bother him before you married him.
He blamed things on you before you married him.
Admit you made a gigantic stupid mistake marrying some complete a s s h o l e. It's just as much your fault for marrying a creep as it is his for being so creepy. Women enjoy complaining about what stupid jerks their men are - well honey - YOU picked him. What does that make you?
Take the hit, learn your lesson, end this weird relationship, and move on.
What lesson, you ask? That marriage only makes people more of what you find annoying, not less.
2007-01-14 06:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same feelings towards my husband. And n the same situation. Gosh I felt like I was the only one. Like your hubby, mine I feel quite often has a chip on his shoulder, and he doesnt have a care in the world for anyone else.
Well I have to say he has improved in the last year and a half. But it got so bad we would fight about it. So finally I told him I wasnt going to live like that anymore, we have children together and they didnt need to be around that. So either he needed to do some changing, well we both did or it was over and someone was leaving. I think its in a mans nature to be like that. Not all men are like that, but alot are. They dont realize how it makes us feel or anyone else for that matter. But sooner or later they have to grow up. Good luck to you
2007-01-14 04:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Heather H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you, and I'm sorry. With my SO I find I am always wanting him to live up to his full potential. He is so talented and good-hearted, but lazy. He lets people walk all over him, and acts like he is nothing, when he is actually very brilliant. It's a little different from your husband, but I too am a little disappointed that he does not have faith in himself and am a little disappointed in his character. If you love him, though, stand by him and support him. Try counseling if you can get him to do it. Don't give up.
2007-01-14 04:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sort of feel as though this is how my wife feels about me at times, but the secret is we feel the same way. I can't stand how she cares about everyone. One thing she does, which I can see you doing, which I have to say DON'T DO IT on, is when you get into a fight and he wants to just forget about it, but you want to "talk about it." This is a very stupid thing to do, and all it will do is cause more problems. I always tell my wife, that I understand her point, I JUST DON'T AGREE! hell to me it's like a Christian convincing a Jew that Jesus is the son of God. He may have a good point, but the JEW DOES NOT AGREE. Plain and simple
2007-01-14 04:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Allen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is not good at all. When you find it hard to hug or kiss your man this is a serious sign of things not going well.
If I were you I would seriously think about leaving him BUT first tell him how you feel and tell him that you feel so strong about it that you would think about leaving him. If that doesnt scare him enough to change, then you know he doesnt care about you enough to change for you then you know it is over. Hope this helps.
2007-01-14 04:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has low self esteem and has to lash out to compensate. I wish you would have found this out before you got married. Other than sitting down to talk or having a minister or counseler talk with both of you, I don't know what to tell you.He may be disappointed the way things turned out. If you love him, the two of you should try to work it out together but he needs to know you are disappointed with his attitude.
2007-01-14 04:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tori M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying for three years. Im 27 and the doctors say im fine. So dont feel so bad at 6 months trying. Being depressed will make it take longer. Just enjoy the process:)
2016-05-24 00:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
blaming others so one does not have to see there faults is what everyone does. but if he is this way then he always was he did not change over night and become a non feeling robot. you are no longer willing to be with someone so unfeeling, so get with him and a marriage counselor and get your selves back on track toward a better marriage, if he says no then go your self, so you have someone to talk too.
2007-01-14 04:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ive been with a major prick for about 8 years who is exactly the same way with me, except were not married. if i say one word to piss him off, he hangs up and wont answer the phone and has my nerves tore all to hell, until i talk to him again and kiss his *** to shut him up. i hate him, and i used to love him more than anything, and i need to let him go, for some reason i cant, its that he dating other people thing that bothers me, but the thing is that he could let me go, its me that wont.
2007-01-14 06:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by gingerb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, and i am going through the exact same thing, it makes me sick! i dont know what to do though! Except deal with it as long as i can and hope he changes, even though i doubt he will
2007-01-14 04:50:54 · answer #11 · answered by sally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋