So my question is we hadnt spoken in almost 5 years I found out a couple months ago we werent leagally married. And I found out he died from an ex-friend who hooked up with him. Before he and I split. So Im not sure how to feel? Do I feel sad or is it ok to to not really feel bad? I had and still have alot of ill will towards him and her. And now she wants to br friends again. Do I just let it go now because he's dead?
2007-01-14 04:37:10 · 7 answers · asked by Heather H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It really depends on yourself. If you don't feel anything for his death, then, that's that. You can MAKE yourself feeling all sad and depressed because he died, because the fact is that you DON'T feel anything for him. However, if you feel sad and terrible that he died, allow yourself to grieve. As for your 'friend', stay away from her. After betraying you, what nerve does she have to show herself at your front door? Let the past stay in the past. Leave her, and move on.
2007-01-14 04:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? You haven't spoken to your ex in 5 years - he is now passed and the now alone gf wants to be friends - ask yourself why? Were you that good of friends before? If you still feel anger, resentment or anything else that could be catagorized as such towards her... why? Forgiveness is one thing - it may allow you to move on. But friendship? Constant reminder of what occured will only hold you back. Believe it or not there is a whole world of friends out there waiting. Some may not think so as they try to find someone to call over for a coffee, but that isn't because they aren't there, it's because we haven't made the effort. We choose our friends because they make us smile, they comfort us and make us feel good about ourselves. Not because we feel we should.
2007-01-14 12:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it alright not to feel sad, 5 years is a long time to not see someone and you weren't married to him , he hooked up with someone before you parted. Far as being friends with his his ex I wouldn't see why you should be, she started being with him while you thought you were married to him. You have ill feelings for her and you want ever be to really forgive and forget what happened, I wouldn't see any reason to be friends with her, so did you dirty with your husband, you will ever able to see her as friend again. Let her go you never if you have some else she may try to take them from you. She is up to no good, check her off and let her go.
2007-01-14 12:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you die "from an ex friend who hooked up with him."?
What's a "br friend"?
Not knowing any of this, what ever you feel, is what you feel.
2007-01-14 13:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not be friends with this person again and give her another chance to stab you in the back. She doesn't deserve your friendship.
2007-01-14 12:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by skatoolaki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so his is dead great, ok the only reason you might consider having her as a friend is that she is sorry and asked to be forgiven and shown remorse, otherwise i do not thing i would.
2007-01-14 12:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be too deep for me, i would not go there
2007-01-14 12:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋