I am (exclusively) breastfeeding my 19 week old daughter and loving it. Only problem I have is that she Only wants to nurse laying down with me. I am larger chested and in the begining when she was small and I was very tired found it a lot easier to lay down to nurse her. Now she almost refuses to nurse any other way. I am a stay at home mom and most the time its not a problem I love to snuggle with her but would like her to be more flexible so I can take her out more often because right now I can only go out right after feeding her and have to come home again when she need to eat. If we're at a relative or friend's house have to ask if I can lay on their bed to feed her. She's Stubborn! :-)
Anyone else have this problem? How did you overcome it?
Refference materials/link would be greatly appreciated if you have any.
2007-01-14 04:26:09 · 12 answers · asked by abbersmomma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Yes, I do have a Boppy but was really only able to use it for nursing the first few weeks. Now she squirms and rolls back away from me too much when using it and it's become "her pillow" for tummy and practice sitting time.
I can get her to latch on if I position with just a couch pillow but she very quickly gets irritated and will push away.
I've tried wating until she's quite hungry, figuring "when she's hungry enough she will give in" but I just end up with a Very fussy baby. and frustrated myself I give in a nurse her on the bed again.
2007-01-14 04:36:59 · update #1
Also have tried pumping and offering in bottle (so my husband can feed her too) but she Screams, Turns, Bites and refuses that!
(I am also open to emailing with any other BFing mom's. I don't have any friends who do and would be nice for support and less public Q&A.)
2007-01-14 04:41:06 · update #2
Is there any chance you have a strong letdown? The way you described her pushing away makes me ask. If so, choosing positions where she is nursing "uphill" might make her happier. (See the link below.)
You could try latching her on while laying down and then switch positions.
Try different positions when she is not quite awake/asleep so that she may not realize what you're doing.
2007-01-14 04:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First I wanted to say to daughterpictures or whatever it is, her daughter is 19 weeks old not months but even if she was months that DOES NOT mean she has to wean! My daughter is 15 months old still nursing every 2 to 4 hours and we will continue to nurse until she is ready wean.
To the original poster, I agree with trying various positions where your daughter would be laying back but you could sit up. We do the "kangaroo hold" a lot cause my daughter likes to look around. I also have a seriously strong letdown reflex as well. Feel free to email or im me anytime!
2007-01-20 03:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by lilbit620 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of the problem maybe that when you are sitting up gravity will make your breast fuller and possibly harder to latch on to. Try pressing the area around your nipple back to give baby more room to latch on. You may have to hold your breast back a little until baby has nursed for a minute or so. This is also a good thing to do when your breast are really full and starting to engorge and making it hard to latch on.
Stay calm, My baby also seemed to know when I was stressed and she didn't nurse as well when I was stressed.
Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-01-19 15:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*lol* While I don't have that problem I generally only nurse laying down when I am at home too, because otherwise mine just gets too distracted. Also it is more comfortable with big boobs and a heavy baby.
For a long time I had to take my pump anytime I went out because instead of eating ever 1-3 hours he would barely eat at all, and I would be a painful leaky mess.
I have two pieces of advice that may help. 1) She won't starve and at 4 months she is old enough to go 8-10 hours without food (would be nice to have one of those babies that does that every night, but anyway). Just keep trying when you are out and about. Try different positions: nursing her with her sitting up in your lap, for example. If your nipple can reach her mouth she can nurse in that position!
Two, pump milk and try offering it in a sippy cup, regular cup, or bottle while you are out. It may work.
Good luck! I hope she outgrows this soon.
2007-01-14 04:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Good on you! I think you may just need to be more persistent with her. If she is hungry she will eat. Start on a day when you are not going anywhere, then find a position you are comfortable with, and offer her to eat. IF she does not, then not to worry, when she is hungry offer her to eat in the position that you want, if she refuses wait 5 mins and offer again...I guarantee you that you will both be exhausted when this is done, but your daughter will eat in a position that you want by the end of the day. Good luck and if you need more help call your local lalechee league.
2007-01-14 04:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tawni B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with pleasing your child? Each baby have his/her own preferences and style. Nurse on demand and that includes the baby's preferences. You can read the book The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by La Leche League. This book is your best source and additionally La Leche League has support groups for moms and other advantages. Look into it.
2007-01-20 03:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a nineteen month old baby your baby should be wing off from you. It's time for you to pump out the milk and put it in a cup and start training her to drink out of a cup and I know its hard to wing them off. When I had my daughter she took my breast and when I brought her home she didn't want it. I had someone come over and to help me the midwife told me that since it has been a week already than she needs to drink from the bottle. When I pump the milk out there was no milk pumping out so I had no choice but to give her the bottle. I try giving you something to think about. Good luck
2007-01-20 01:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by daughterpictures 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried lying her on a pillow on the side of your body and trying to hold her up agianst you? My son would really only nurse that way and laying down because i'm large cheasted and couldnt really hold him normally till get got older and i could hold him better. hope i can help some
2007-01-14 05:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Heather S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried BFing with a sling. Sometimes it is her lieing down that she likes. My daugher likes to BF in bed the best as well. I guess because she falls asleep after most times.
2007-01-21 14:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by raysangel1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try nursing your baby with her sitting up in your lap (supported by you) facing you - sometimes this is called the kangaroo hold.
Also, some babies get quite distractible right around four months of age. Here are some tips for how to get your baby to breastfeed in public:
http://www.breastfeeding123.com/how-to-get-a-distractible-baby-to-nurse-in-public-mom-to-mom-4/
Good luck!
2007-01-17 03:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by twocatmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋