10 year old she asks questions that seem inappropriate or show a lack of boundaries. What should I do?

Question

10 year old live-in Step Daughter moved in w/me and her dad . We met at that time b/c she was in another country, culture, religion and spoke zero English. Now she's been here 1 year and here's a sampling of her questions: When given a gift “Where did you get this? How much did it cost?” She sees your prescription meds “What are these for?” Or “Why do you have a Dr appt.?” Seeing a picture of your best friend who's heavy-set and weighs apprx. 300 LBS, “Oh my God why is she so BIG?! (In disgust). She asks “Why don’t you have a job?” if you work “How much do you make?” When you are on the PC she’s constantly trying to see what you're typing and/or read your email. The new-agey parents who claim that I do owe her answesr to these intrusive questions, b/c she has a right to know why I don’t work (outside the home) or what meds I take. I tend to disagree b/c an adult asking me these things would get cussed out. Her father won't address it and says no counseling. How would you handle this?

Answer 1

Sounds to me like she is just curious, she is only ten years old, and everything is just so new to her. Just be patient with her. You can correct her, but as she gets older she will learn more of what is and isn't appropriate.

Answer 2

hello
well if the father does not want to address the situation then i would tell her it is for adults business and not a childs....she is still a child and does not need to know things that go on with adults....i am a person that is 27 with 2 daughters one 11 and the other 2 and what i do or take is none of their business....parents and adults need privacy and a child does need to know there place......i don't believe in telling a child every thing that you do....for the fact some things they just don't need to know or be exposed to some of the thigns tha i do.....just be firm with her and if you have too tell her father also that she does not need to know every thing that you do.....and do not let her push you over.....i was also with very strict parents that believed a child was seen and not heard.....and i have recieved a few spankings and i did not die or go and hurt any one either....and your husband needs to support your decision and discapline her as well as you....you need to set rules and bounderys for her or she will never learn the concequences of trial and error.....i believe in firm dicipline and a lot of people look down on me but thats what works with my children and i love them very much....i hope have helped in some sort of way.....

Answer 3

i would correct her each time....

like that is not a nice/proper thing to ask