my husband is so dishonest, but is he cheating??

Question

lately my husband has been trying really hard to go fishing with one of his buddies (who is a jerk to his own wife and always cheats on her) and he finally went this morning. he never goes out becouse we usually do things together. he was being very rude to me this morning when i asked him not to drink (he is still underaged). he didnt even say bye when he left. lately we havent been intimate ever, and even if i try i get the sholder. he is such a lier. he always lies but i catch him because guys are bad liers. what is your opnion? i have tried talking but i just get mocked because he never takes me serisisoly...

by the way, he works with theise friends everyday, he tells me how annoying they are. why would he spend his holiday off with them if he hates them so much??

i thought about trying to go out this morning and i put on a shirt that he bought me, he got really mad and started an argument. i think he is just worried i am cheating on him, guilty concience!!!

brian, i didnt nag him about drinking, i sat down with him before he freind got here, and i said, "honey can we talk quickly? i really would like for you not to drink, you know how out of control it can get and i dont feel very well today" it wasnt nagging, its not like i tell him this everyday, thats nagging.

Answer 1

He sounds as if he has some sort of problem going on and if he lies about one thing he would lie about another . If you don't already have children I would consider leaving him if he is unwilling to be honest , open and communicate . But honesty and communication are key in a marriage without it all is lost . Good luck , try communicating again before taking any action and don't settle for him shrugging this off . .

Answer 2

The situation you're in sounds painful and frustrating. I'm sorry you have to go through that. He may be cheating or maybe just wants to relive single times with his buddy. But either way cheating or not he is showing classic signs of ToYoungToMarryitus. Think about it. If a person is two young to take a drink in the eyes of the criminal justice system then he/she is DEFINITELY to young to get married. If you are also young like him you may want to reconsider your choice to marry b/c you probably also have toyoungtomarryitus and it's infecting your very being and will only cost you heartache. Hopefully you will get out before you have kids which will make it much more difficult to move on. Hope my input has been of some help.

Answer 3

Your husband and he's still not old enough to drink. Ok. Well there's your first problem there. It's very difficult in the modern era to be married and your age. It CAN work, but it requires a great deal a maturity that few in your age group have. The fact that he lies proves the point. Children lie. But at the same time you are trying to "catch" him and you are nagging him about drinking. You're not his mother, you're his wife...so in my view you have a real problem here that doesn't have a good chance of being resolved. Sorry.

Answer 4

Well, you shouldn’t have taken a step before understanding him and having a vision of what you wanted in life and what he could give. Even then some times it is possible you be cheated. But now that you are on a married relation, you should let it go off just like that, and regret later on. You better create a situation for you both to sit and talk, however this time try to be quiet and more understanding to him. Once you understood him well and his wants and needs, you can better either advice him and bring a positive change in him and your life or you can then better choose a right path to your life.

I am sure in such a situation where he is not ready to even listen to you, he won’t be ready to sit and talk to you either. But you can test his cares and love with leaving him temporary with making it clear that you are leaving him because he is not ready to sit and talk to you and bring a mutual understanding. I am sure he won’t let you go just like that if he really cares for you and his life with you.

Answer 5

First off, if your husband hanging out with his friend he hates, then why does he not end the friendship and start new ones. It is much simplier to do it that way then to continue to have friend who treat him like crap, that is not doing him any justice what so ever. If he is cheating on you and you know it then you need to speak up and put your foot down and tell your husband that you are not going to take it anymore and that you want it to end or your have the options of divorcing him and finding someone better, you also know that he is not taking you seriously especially when you try to talk to him. He is being immature, and does not want to face facts even if he was right infront of him. If wanted to be married to you he would have the decency to act his age and treat you better and get rid of his disrespectful friends. Any man in most cases would get rid of his friends and make new ones and me mature to admit to his own mistakes. What you choose to is absolutely up to you. If you know what you want and know how to get it then you can do better if you feel you really want better.

Answer 6

Girl slow down on your man!
Can you hear yourself, you consider his friend a "jerk", you are by your question "pissed off" because he is going fishing and this is out of the ordinary, and to add to that you have got him under constant Interigation as to his "movements". you also go on to say you have told him not to drink... Your not his Boss, your his wife.
Act like it, he is lying to you possibly telling you what he thinks would best suit you, and sweeping the truth under a rug, in fear of Conflict with you.
And as for men being all Bad lyers, I don't have to lie to my partner because she accepts me and my Right ( got that) to a life outside of our relationship, as i wasn't under the thumb (her's ) when i met her and she is like most people that haven't got serious Control issues of the opinion that we need to mix with other people outside of each other, because we will get bored with each sooner or later, also lying is and "bad" lying is not an exclusive male "trait" there are a few black sheep on your side of the gender fence to....

If you want to drive your Husband away from you in every way shape and form you couldn't be doing a better job.
If you want your relationship to withstand the test of time go and see a proffessional Councellor about your issues and how you deal with your Cognitive Responces, ( they will explain to you what that means) and start to live life and be happy girl.
Because unless you have a sadistic nature by Trait you cant be happy the way you are coping emotionally.
And that is the most important thing "how you are coping!".
I wish you all the best..
Firstly

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say this, but if he is giving you the cold shoulder when it comes to sex then he is quite possibly getting it somewhere else. It sounds like you got married way to young, or he did anyway. How old are you?

Another sign of a cheating husband is when they will accuse you of cheating to justify there actions.

Answer 8

it sounds to me that the two of you can not communicate at all. that's the biggest problem. if your not able to talk to the person that your with your always going to have issues. you said your self that he never goes any where, so if he decides to go fishing your first thought is he is cheating?? the two of you have to have time to do things with out each other.its called trust!! im sorry but in my opinion the thing the two of you need to work on is communicating.

Answer 9

I would agree with everyone else. You married to young..If you are more like a home body, Don't like your man drinking, then you need to look for a older man, the guy your with now, isn't ready to settle down.

Answer 10

If your married he's probably not cheating. He is most likely bored and just wants to hang out with his friend but you make such a big deal when he wants to go out that he doesn't want to deal with the B.S. so he just leaves before you can argue with him. Go out with your friends and try to make him jealous also stop asking him to be intimate. He will ask himself why hasn't she tried to sleep with me and then he will ask you. This all takes time so be patient and let him chill with his bud they are going fishing.