Have a language student staying through a language school. We get paid for it and provide half board. He is from Korea, 26 and is pleasant enough. However, in 3 months in Brighton he has hardly been out apart from going to lessons in the mornings. He sits in his room and does not go out to do anything. I have asked him why he does not go out but he just shrugs and said he would go sightseeing in summer! Is this normal behaviour? Why doesn't he go out and enjoy being here? Should I not bother? I find it annoying as feel it is a waste of money him being here and not taking any interest in the culture or what the country has to offer. Should I say something or just leave him be?
2007-01-14 04:17:17 · 13 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its because he comes from such a different culture than here. England prob intimidates him. Nevertheless, if he was that unhappy about being stuck indoors all the time, he would go out! Leave him be. He'll be fine :)
2007-01-14 04:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could suggest you take him out? With someone to accompany him he might rise to the idea.
Alternatively he might have been to the UK many times before and know that the weather (well, apart from today - it was lovely down here in Brighton walking on the front in the sunshine) isn't the best at this time of year.
Maybe he's not got that much cash either?
2007-01-14 04:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by pshawfocus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his culture most liklyu kids are strongly disciplined to take education very seriously.
Would also make him weary of fitting in so lacking confidence.
It would help to find a balance but tricky where he gets to study hard but play as well.
But life is more then work and study... would help to get a girlfriend and mates... poss first with other korean students as safe... Kareoke is popuar in the far east maybe try that.
2007-01-14 04:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,first of all you should try to find out if that depends on his personality or if it's something related to his culture.It might be he doesn't like winter time or he's not accustomed to the cold.On the other end it might be something to do with his origins.I would ask him if people your age in Korea normally go out or if they prefer being left alone.But thinking deeply,I've just remembered a girl who was from Korea too and was a classmate of mine in London.She actually behaved like us Europeans and was quite talkative and sociable.
2007-01-14 04:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Brenno 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is more common for students in some parts of the world to study hard and not take too much interest in anything else. It is a form of discipline that European students are not so familiar with.
When he has finished his studies I am sure he will do all the tourist things, especially if he is Korean.
I wouldn't worry if I was you, I am sure he is fine.
2007-01-14 04:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him alone, some people are outgoing extroverts, some are introverts and get no real satisfaction out of seeing stuff. He might like to go out every once in a while, and you should grab him and say 'lets go.' But for the most part leave him alone.
2007-01-14 04:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and be friend him and see if you can get to know why he is not outgoing , if you can't do that just leave him alone, he might be that type, not outgoing, or he just want to go ahead with what brought him here , study and go back home or may be he cannot afford it or hasn't got a friend around yet.
2007-01-14 04:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by baba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him be, as a language student i know that such big changes can be overwhelming and u like time to think about cultures before you have to fully embrace them
2007-01-14 04:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by smallpot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably does not have much money to go out and feels isolated as well. If you're worried about it try taking him somewhere at least once or twice and see what happens.
2007-01-14 04:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you've been trying your best, but surely you cannot force someone to do what they don't have to.
Maybe it's something you can discuss before the next student is to come over.
2007-01-14 04:37:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋