on a business trip a few months ago, i met a sales rep who is in my line of work. we hit it off immediately, and we ended up making out heavily, no sex, for several hours. well, since that night, he hasnt left my mind. i dont get it, hes married and i know it, but i want to see him again, the chemistry was so strong, it was like nothing ive ever felt. he lives about 5 hours from me, and i dont want him to leave his wife and children,but i miss him terribly and i want to see him. help?
2007-01-14 04:16:56 · 31 answers · asked by gingerb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my opinion? you're a pathetic home wrecking tramp if you pursue. Hope you two are happy together.
2007-01-14 04:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look,your probably a pretty woman and really like this guy. You need to take a step back and realize the consequences of both of your actions. You could possibly be responsible for the breakdown of this man's family, and i know you dont want that on your mind. I can't tell you to leave this guy and his family alone, because people are people and will do whatever they want. This is your life, however you could be responsible for ruining the lives of others.
2007-01-14 04:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, you have to weigh whether to value your own happiness or the married man's family more. Yes, you may have had mind-blowing chemistry with this man one night, but you can find more men with whom you have great chemistry.
And honestly, he probably doesn't feel the same as you because he DID go back home to his wife and kids.
Try to forget about him, he's a loser because he cheated on his wife with you, and thats the kind of guy you want to AVOID.
2007-01-14 04:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you want is to have a fling with no attachments afterwards. Married men offer this to some women. That is why you may meet a single guy and not make out , cuz you know he may want to do something stupid like get married. Apparently you are not looking to really get settled down. You should just drop him if you do not want him to leave his wife. Married men want occasionally flings to spice up their sex life cuz mama ain't taking care of things at home.
2007-01-14 04:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is a tough one..I have been in this situation..I HAD TO CONVINCE MYSELF TO NOT GET ATTACHED..you dont wanna be one of those people who get wrapped up in a relationship with someone married and then find out his wife is wonderful and kids are as well and then you end up wrecking it..if you wanna see him again..you can, yeah hes married but something has already been started here..you could at least finish it..it could possibly allow this flame to burn lower if you do..talk to this guys ask him how his life is at home?? Go with your gutt sweetie..
2007-01-14 04:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think rather anyone wants to admit it there is always someone who is taken that catches your eye. However in your case he shows no level of seriousness and only of intamacy. It's been a few months and you guys only kissed once and he's still on your mind like this. It might be better if you went and found someone else to fill the void that there seems to be from not having him.
2007-01-14 04:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_girl_allure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lust is such a powerful thing. First thing you have to do is stop watching sex in the city, and all those other stupid shows putting stupid lines like "great chemistry" and so forth in your head. Second thing you have to do is evaluate your life as it stands. Ask yourself if you want to be a whore. Even if things work out for you, you're ruining another persons life. I'm definitely not perfect, but it's safe for me to say you're a horrible person, GO FIND A SINGLE GUY, YOU S LUT!
2007-01-14 04:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Allen S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get your own man home wrecker. Don't you think that you deserve someone who will love you and only you. I don't get women like you. How can you even want someone who is already with someone else. It is such a turn off to me when a guy who is involved with someone hits on me. That just tells me that he has no respect for relationships so why would I want to get involved with him. If a guy wants to cheat on his wife then he has every right to do so I just know that it ain't gonna be with me. If you can't respect this guys marriage then at least respect your self enough to have someone for yourself. Don't be so desperate, and don't forget that karma's a big B*t*h, So when you fall in love and get married and your husband won't stop cheating on you don't feel sorry for your self or sit and wonder why.
p.s. GET YOUR OWN MAN
2007-01-14 04:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow that must be very difficult for you, the best thing is that you two have not yet have sex. As a religious person I think you should keep your relationship on a professional level. Im sure those feelings will go away eventually!!
2007-01-14 04:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lady B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip on yourself.
You made out with him.
This is a totally insignificant thing in the big picture.
It wasn't "chemistry," it was pure animal lust.
I'm sure you're not the first coworker he's made out with on a trip.
Plus, he's a jerk for making out with you in the first place.
You have a teenage crush on a two-timing SOB!
Just trying to put it in perspective for you.
2007-01-14 04:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your feeling is LUST. Nothing more, nothing less. It's nothing special. Move on and don't get involved with a married man EVER again. If it were a single man you would already be in his arms, with a married man he can't offer you anything but lies.
2007-01-14 04:53:41 · answer #11 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋