I live with my boyfriend in his house.
I don't pay my way simply becuase he doesn't let me have a say in decorating etc. It has to be his way.
He always states that its his house. He paid for it, and won't ever put me on the mortgage.
I've bought brand new appliances i.e kitchen untensils, new fridge freezer etc. and now he wants me out because I occasionally forget to pick up the jumper on the floor or decide to rest because I work from 4 in the morning instead of constantly cleaning up.
What should I do?
2007-01-14 04:15:32 · 25 answers · asked by leffers55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get the hell out of there and take with you EVERYTHING you have paid for.
He's a total arsehole.
2007-01-14 04:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he wants you out, there's not much you can do.
It was pretty clear from the start that you were not to last; he didn't want you on his papers; won't let you have a say, and did accept what you bought for the kitchen.
Obviously he considers that as fair enough since you were not paying any rent.
Put it down to experience and leave the freak.
That's all he'll ever be, until he meets someone he really loves and understands the importance of love.
YOU are not this person.
Don't waste more of your time.
Sorry.xx
2007-01-14 10:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have seen the writing on the wall.
The fact that he never let you get economically involved in the running and cost of his property should have made you realise from the start that he never intended for the relationship to last.
This is because he knew that if he let you contribute towards the mortgage, etc, then when he eventually decided to dump you then you would be in a position legally to claim that part of the property belonged to you.
However, now all you can do is to move out and take any of your belongings with you.
Its a hard life!!
2007-01-14 04:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that! He sounds like a control freak and the relationship sounds like it has been on his terms. What do you get out of being with him?! You need to decide but if he has asked you to go then it seems that is what you must do - unless you have no pride! Take your stuff with you and start again with someone who will want you to be equal and will love and respect you not try to control you. Good luck
On a practical side - how long have you lived there for? Would you have any claims to the place? Do you and can you afford to get your own place? If you can't seek legal advice before you move out. You may have a case but if you move you will loose all possible claims. Also the council will find you intentionally homeless if you leave of your own accord.
2007-01-14 04:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but I have to side with your boyfriend on this one. He did pay for the house and therefore you should not be added to the title or have any say in how the home should be decorated. It would be a completely different situation if the two of you were married and jointly owned the property. As far as you purchasing the appliances, is this making up for the rent that he doesn't ask you to pay? Plus, it sounds like you don't do your share of the house work. I really don't think the two of you are compatible and it is probably best for you to go your separate ways.
2007-01-14 04:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I think you can only leave with what you have bought. You say he made it perfectly clear that he didnt want any money from you towards the house costs - he was covering himself, cos you are only entitled to a % if you can prove that you have finacially provided towards to bills, mortgage and upkeep on the property. But he has made sure that you havent. Sorry
2007-01-14 04:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that you dont feel at home you should leave just like he said. But take all that you have bought. I dont think you should leave anything behind and if i were you I would break the whole relationship off. If he is telling you to leave that means he doesnt need you there then which means. BREAK IT OFF
2007-01-14 04:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He apparently doesn't love you anymore; otherwise, he wouldn't fret the small stuff like picking up the jumper. If he truly loves you, he will overlook your flaws (we all have flaws!).
The question is do you still love him and want to save this relationship? If you do, you need to talk to him. If not, move on.
2007-01-14 04:26:31 · answer #8 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him hun hes a selfish prick, dont forget to take ALL that you bought, dont matter if he aint got a freezer, HE can buy one for HIS house, oh ya and HE can pick up HIS sh it!
2007-01-14 05:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Do you want to live your life with a controlling, selfish, and ungrateful guy? If you marry him, he will more than likely become worse. You deserve better. Move out.
Best of luck to you.
2007-01-14 04:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by Tess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends how long you have lived there if it is longer than 18 months you are classed as a common law wife and are entitled to ...half of everything
2007-01-14 04:32:20 · answer #11 · answered by William H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋