I am remarried and have a son with my new husband so I don't work right now. My ex-husband pays child support on my first two sons whom I have custody of. My ex thinks I should have to work if he is going to pay child support. Does anyone agree with him? I stay home full time to take care of my three boys and my new husband works.
2007-01-14 03:59:22 · 21 answers · asked by Tink 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Allen S - I dont get my nails done and my hair is done by my friend who is a beautician. That has nothing to do with it because if I were to have a job I would have to pay for my hair and nails anyway! My kids are very well taken care of and are honor roll students who play baseball, basketball, are in cub scouts, chess club, and church. That all costs money in gas and time, which I have a lot of because I stay home and take care of them!!!
2007-01-14 04:45:52 · update #1
Your ex husband doesnt want to pay child support because he views it as a malicious act against all men. That is the most common thought process in our society. Taking a job will relieve him of the responsibility of supporting his two children. This will put the burden on you and your new husband soley. Your ex husband will be free to go on his new life with out having any reminder that he is a father.
If you new husband is finding the new family a strain on finances then maybe you can ask him how he feels about his job, hours and from time to time what it takes to run a household. I am sure the two of you will come together on an agreement that works best for all.
Worse case scenario you may have to work part time. But keep in mind its temporary till children are able to care for themselves or you new husband has a promotion or decides to move to a job that offers more for his efforts.
Your ex husband will try to antagonize you from time to time. Dont let that venom come between your new family and good luck.;)
2007-01-14 04:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by reme14u 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess he can think whatever he wants, but if you didn't stay at home then you would be incurring day care expenses. That, in and of itself, can eat up money like crazy. My kids paid $220 a week for 1 child for 4 days a week. Then there's the idea of preschool, that someone would also have to pay for. So who pays for the health insurance for the children. If he thinks you're laying on your butt with three kids, you should ask him to trade places. He is lucky that you are willing to stay home to care for them. I don't know how the time is divided between the two parents, but still and all, I'd ask him for his rationale.
2007-01-14 12:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-husband is incorrect, it is none of his business whether you work or not, his child support is to pay for his portion of his children's care. Just because you are re-married and have the option of being a stay at home mom, doesn't mean that he is exempt from financially supporting his children. Seems like your ex wants to shirk his responsibilities as a father.
2007-01-14 13:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are financially able to tend to your children by not working and your new hubby has no issues with it..I dont think you should have to work if you dont want to..I think your ex wants you to get a job so that child support can be re evaluated once you begin working because the courts will consider doing so if you become employed..thats what I think..but like I said if you can support them without a job, then I dont think you should have to work at all
2007-01-14 12:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't have to work if your new husband is working than you don't have to he can feel any way that he wants to.. but the facts are that all you have to do is support them... he has no right to tell you what you should or shouldn't do thats the good part of him being a ex
2007-01-14 12:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Beth m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your EX is wrong. Whatever your state decrees as child support and it is in your divorce decree, that is in stone. If he wishes to go back to court to redo the numbers, that is an option to either of you.
Each state is different though. I'm in Massachusetts, I would have to take my EX back to court- we would both fill out our financial statements and then they would crunch the numbers and there is a minimum I would have to pay because of the difference of our salaries. It is a set formula. I would have been liable for $225 dollars a week for 1 child. But we agreed upon $150 a week, so that is decreed in our divorce papers. If she wanted to go back and redo it she could. Either of you can. His would be a bad gamble.
2007-01-14 12:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by AvionicZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex has a new partner and he's not a bad person, and has a good job. I'm glad she can stay home a do what mothers have been doing for generations. Seeing to the needs of children. Tell him to buzz off.
2007-01-14 12:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by oldokie1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to work for him to pay you child support. He is just mad because he has to work to pay you and you don't have to work and can stay home and take care of your children. Let him think what he wants!
2007-01-14 12:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of his business what you do...his only concern should be that you are taking care of his children! He should be happy that you are able to stay at home and care for his children instead of putting them in day care and having strangers raise his kids. He needs to move on and stop worrying about what you are doing.
2007-01-14 12:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by whattdo? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about what your ex - husband thinks you should do , the courts have spoken and he doesn't make your decisions for you . You have a right and the freedom to work or not just forget about what he said and pay him no mind .
2007-01-14 12:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋