I have a boyfriend and we have a 18 month old child. He told me a month ago he was not happy. We wrote a list of things we are not happy with about eachother and then made a resolution list of steps we were going to take to make our relationship work. I just found out that the same time he told me he was not happy he has been sending poems and conversing with another girl. I have since broke-up with him. I just need to pick up my belongs as well as my sons to make it official. He is begging me back.
2007-01-14 03:55:11 · 4 answers · asked by tredaze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, according to every religious text on the face of the earth. If he thought about doing it in his heart/mind, he is guilty in the eyes of the almighty GOD.
Dump him sue for child-support he'll have to pay it. Move on and don't look back, you don't need one of those types in your life.
2007-01-14 04:13:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intent IS close enough. However, I have to ask did he break contact with the other person when you made your resolutions together? He may actually want to make it work. Maybe stay living apart for a while but don't shut the door entirely.Since you've apparently already got somewhere to stay, take the separation time to see what his true intentions are. BTW I admire the attempt made at keeping together the way you BOTH did, if it was meant on both sides.
2007-01-14 12:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Betsy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone is not happy, they might do things they regret later. The fact that he was sending poems and conversing with another woman might be one of those things. Question is however, would he actually have gone out with her if he had the chance? Other question is: is he truely sorry or has he found out that he can't find anyone better?
Fact remains, that BOTH of you made those lists (which I admire), so I'm inclined to take his side and assume he truely is sorry and does wanna make things work.
Like said before: use the seperation time to figure things out: what you want, what he wants, and what both of you need. Clear your heads, and keep talking to each other.
2007-01-14 12:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well cookie having a child in the situation you need to put their needs first, if you think that in the long run it'll just cause you more heartache than save yourself. Anyone who has the intent to cheat, yes that is classified as cheating, the fact that he told you about it before something happened, showed that he was trying to work it out. So in your situation I would just give you this advice, if you feel you can't forgive him and never mention it again and not judge him, than go back to him. If you can't....don't. Good luck babe!
2007-01-14 12:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋