Help! My boyfriend and I have been living togehter for 3 years and now he wants me to help him pay his child support. All of our living expenses are spit down the middle and then we are each responsible for all of our own bills...credit cards, car insurance, car payments etc. I don't think It is my responsibility to have to pay for his kid!!! When we moved in together we talked about what bills we would share and which bills we would pay ourselves. Child support was one bill I would not agree to share! How do I tell him I am not helping him with his child support I have my own bills to pay and I am on a very strict budget with my money. Everytime we discuss his child support we get into a big fight.
2007-01-14 03:47:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ha ha sorry but what a cheap bastard. In what way is his child support a shared living expense. my boyfriend and I also share living expense on the 1/2 principal with the exception of our own personal bills. There shouldn't even be an argument really if he asks and you say no and he gets pissy ask him what are three good reasons in which you should put your money towards an expense that is completely his . If it gets heated tell him that you are putting your foot down and do not want any involvement in paying to support a child that is not yours That you could understand helping him with car payments for a little but if he really is even asking you to help with child support you need to tell him to get another job lol. If you don't want to fight and he wont give in... I suggest you offer helping him with another expense like paying some of his credit card to free up more money for his support payment but honestly you shouldn't have to pay a dime for anything he got himself into, you're not his wife and look at all the people on judge Judy who end up paying for **** that their lovers ask them to pay for and then they take them to court after they break up and they lose their case because they can't prove it was a loan. Don't get stuck into something like this no matter how much you love someone there has to be a limit on how far you'll go for them and honestly this is a little over that line.
2007-01-16 17:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Cookie, in the beginning if you agreed not to pay and he still has the audacity to ask you despite what you said, unfortunately this is only going to be the beginning of many more problems. When you move in someone it's not like being married where his bills would become your bills, you shouldn't have to pay for his kids. That's why when unattatched people, get attatched to people with excess baggage they usually have problems like this. If you're not willing to pay now, then you won't be even more willing to pay when you DO get married.
So If I were you babe, I would head for the hills because honestly things will only get worse. It isn't just about the child support, it's about him wanting you to foot the bill for mistakes that he made.Things will only get worse. Now it's child support, next it's: "I'm a little short on the rent, do you mind paying this month and I'll get that back to you later." Good luck babe!
2007-01-14 03:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well his child support payments are not your responsibility, they are his. He was paying child support previously before you met and therefore they are his responsibility regardless. He should be a man and step up to the plate on his own accord.Not be dependant on his partner in a new relationship of 3 years.
2007-01-14 04:07:56 · answer #3 · answered by viper_64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That man is crazy! Why should you help him with his child support when thats his responsibility! What kind of man is that and he's not even your husband, even then I would be upset about it. I know you love him dearly but you need to talk him into taking care of that on his own or maybe you could pick up one bill like his car insurance or something. But to out right ask you something like that is selfish and inconsiderate and needs to be evaluated.
2007-01-14 03:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by o'juiccy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world is he thinking? It's not your child or your responsibility. He needs to grow up and take care of his business and his child. Tell him that he made the baby, now he must support that baby. You should not feel responsible for this. Take care of yourself and if he doesn't get it maybe it's time for you to get out!
2007-01-14 03:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct, the child support is not your responsibility and for him to even mention it is wrong on so many levels. Any man that would ask his significant other to pay for his mistake is not worth having around.
2007-01-14 03:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well looks like ur gonna get into another fight cause ur right its not ur responsibility to pay his child support. Its not ur child and ur not married, when u are married thats a different story
2007-01-14 03:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there? I am not a professional, Just giving my view in your situation. Right now you are not Married. 3 years together is not really long enough for you to contribute to his responsibilites. You are not obligated. It's hard to make the other person realize where you are coming from. Good luck.
2007-01-14 06:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by SerbMex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is HIS responsibility NOT yours. You just tell him that and refuse to help him. If he can't and won't accept it and fights with you about it, leave. He isn't worth it. Good Luck
2007-01-14 03:52:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather odd that he expects you to pay for the children he put in this world. Can't see any good arguments why you should, particularly not since the two of you have decided to keep your finances seperate.
2007-01-14 03:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋