She is married and her and my neihbor had an attraction to each other. She is not happy in her marriage and my neighbor compensates for the husband in his attention to her, which she loves. She finds so many excuses to come to my house to see him, sometimes at night. I suspect they had sex but don't want to ask. I am concerned because this neihbor got sex, and now I see him with another woman. I told my friend and she got upset. My neighbor said he was just friends with the other woman yet I see she spent the night last night. I think my neihbor is just using my friend for sex and possibly trying to break up the marriage. How do I get her to believe this?
2007-01-14 03:35:57 · 13 answers · asked by Teddy Bear 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well try to get as many facts so that way your friend doesn't think that your just making this up. if it doesn't wrok try explaining it to her slowly (well not like shes retarded just like explain her about certain things) and she if she understands! hope it works !
2007-01-14 03:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it hurt your friend. You did the right thing by telling her about the neighbor. She knows now that he is seeing other people, but it is going to be hard to let go of something/someone who fills a void. You have done your job. Just make sure you are no where around when the "ish" hits the fan.
2007-01-14 03:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by blaak_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh but you asked. Why do you think this is any of your buisness? It only concerns you if you stick your nose in. Let your neighbors live and learn. You probably need to clean your own house before you start cleaning someone elses.
2007-01-14 03:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's really in love with this guy: you can't, and she'll have to find out the hard way. She might even blame you for interfering, but if she's a true friend, it won't matter.
For now, keep out of it. Tell her your concerns, and let her draw her own conclusions. If she wants to keep seeing this guy, let her. Stock up on hankies, cause shel'll need them when she does realise you're right. Or you'll need them if he does leave his wife for your friend and you're invited to the wedding... :)
2007-01-14 03:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said, "had an affair". Well did she have or is having? And why are they meeting at your place?
Your friend is just a booty call and she can either accept the fact or move on. AS FOR you, It's in your best interest to get out of the 'meeting place'.
2007-01-14 03:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, the best thing to do is to stay out of it completely. When the neighbor screws over your friend, you want to be there. Don't tell her what is going on, let her figure it out. You don't want to lose a friend over this.
2007-01-14 03:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by Shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop them from meeting at your house,you'll be caught up in the middle of a nasty divorce.Your friend is going to have to see things for herself,sounds like to me she's gotten herself in a huge mess and your in the middle of it!
2007-01-14 03:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your neighbour has another woman at her house and then invite your friend over to see for herself.
2007-01-14 03:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by madeline r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe dan the guy, make her take accountability. yet you do ought to end and imagine. is this nicely worth dropping a buddy over? in my opinion, i does not enable something like that go on. i do not have a huge mouth or something yet i recognize that i ought to actual want someone to inform me if my fiance replaced into dishonest. it in simple terms all comes all the way down to asking of your self: do i want to get entangled? could i stay out of their organisation? is it nicely worth dropping my buddy? (yet when she is a good buddy, she will be able to appreciate) ought to i want someone to inform me if my fiance replaced into dishonest? i desire that i helped you out, and that i desire that each thing works out for you and your individuals:) i'm confident it is going to, each thing continuously does. you are able to also deliver that guy an nameless letter or msg on his telephone letting him recognize what is going on, yet make confident you've the data so as that he believes you previous all doubt. then no individual will recognize it replaced into you and the reality will finally come out!
2016-11-23 17:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of the marriage...you will get blamed either way!...instead, allow their lies and deceit catch them...adultery is a sin in the eyes of the lord!
2007-01-14 03:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by WORD UP G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋