What do you say to a friend who is seriously contemplating suicide?

Question

I have answered a lot of questions on here... but this is something I tried to help with and I'm not sure it worked.

A friend was upset about an online overseas relationship that didn't work out (surprise, surprise), and said she wanted to kill herself. I explained to her that it wouldn't solve anything, it was like driving a car into a ravine because you lost your job, or shooting yourself in the foot because you stub your toe. It doesn't make sense, and all her friends and family would be so hurt and upset and feel just horrible if she were to do so. I explained that feeling bad is better than feeling nothing at all forever.

I tried everything I could think of to convince her, but honestly she started to make me scared and upset, and right now I am absolutely an emotional wreck. I can't even talk to her right now because of how deathly serious she was.

What the hell do you do in a situation like this when nothing works?

I don't know her full name so I can't call the cops.

dca- I already explained why I can't

2 infinity- I'm sorry, but that answer makes no sense. I doubt it was even serious.

blonde one- I did, trust me. It didn't work.

smart tree- thanks for the heartfelt advice. Unfortunately I have no way of getting in touch with them.

momofat- I'm sorry, but I'm nowhere near her location. Florida/Kansas.

Answer 1

Ok, this is from someone who has attempted four different times (myself, of course), and the first thing I would do is grab her by the hand and gently "tug" her in the direction of the nearest hospital ER. It will do the both of you some good. They will treat her well, and help her with her problems. People who will be understanding, not condescending. They know how to take care of her and help her to the best of her abilities. You need help too, this has got to be a strain on you to have to deal with this all alone...or at least feel like you're all alone. I feel for both of you and I do hope you and she get the help you so desperately need. Keep me posted...as you can see, even after four attempts, last two which were very serious, I have turned out ok. I still have tendencies, but that is why I do see still see a therapist. Take care and God bless you which ever way this turns out.


Ok since there is a little matter of distance...is there anyway you can have her on a conference call(3 way) with suicide hot line...they can get a hold of the police for you...just explain to them you are on a 3way connection, and of course, call them first and let them in on things...they may be able to counsel you too. I am only trying to help...not hinder...please forgive my intrusiveness...and good luck again

Answer 2

you don't need to know her full name to have the police help . you just need to let them know about this and be willing to tell them how you get in touch with her and assist them by providing any
help they ask for.
the police can track down a person on the Internet easily within minutes if they want .
i had call the police about a crime that was going on and i knew of via the Internet. the person was in another country yet just with a call to the local police here they found her and helped her
they wont provide you with much or any info about the results of the action they may tell you that they found the person and were
able to talk with them in person that is about all you will ever learn about the matter from the police .
i urge you to let the police know all about this.

Answer 3

Calmly explain that this is irrational, and these things always happen, she's not a special case. Then explain how not only would she be dead for a stupid reason, but her family and friends, namely you, would be left with awful feelings. Ask her parents/others that know her better her full name, then call for help if the other suggestions dont work. I'll be praying for you both.

Answer 4

i comprehend have been you're coming from, i felt an identical some years returned i awakened surprisingly much on a daily basis hoping i'm getting killed or i kill myself i surprisingly much killed myself as i exchange into in tears in the showering room by way of fact of a school i under no circumstances have been given into, and because how all of the failings werent going the way i planned lifestyles yet thats the way it is i pushed with the aid of and interior of surprisingly much a 12 months i exchange into merely like "screw this" and grew to become my very own guy or woman and did my very own variety i'm now a skater and adjusted my entire look, not for people yet to make myself experience greater useful, new haircut figuring out etc. in spite of each thing that i forgot why i exchange into changing and merely did it for relaxing, enjoyed my alterations and then all of the products began to give way. i comprehend your issues and that i'm hoping you dont do it i dont want to be religous or something by way of fact i hated whilst my mom and pa threw this in my face and constantly laughed approximately suicide like a pair years in the past yet might you extremely stay an entire life of finished torture and anguish by way of fact of "heck" ^^believe me dont relatively think of roughly this, yet i inform you one element lifestyles might look frustrating and perplexing even with the undeniable fact that it basically feels so long given which you at the instant are not your self be your self and ignore what others think of. i comprehend you're fearful yet in time issues will exchange and your authentic colorings will shine

Answer 5

open her eyes or mind to everything beautiful in life
if i were u i would tell here imagine u killed urself and now u r back 2 a new life new start n new friends n ...

Answer 6

GET HER SOME PROFESSIONAL HELP AS QUICKLY AS YOU CAN!!!!!! LET HER FAMILY KNOW WHAT HER INTENTIONS ARE!!!!! CALL 911 !!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

tell her much she means to YOU and how much YOU don't want to see her gone.