depression in pregnancy?

Question

am 20wks pregnant live apart from partner(though tryin to find a house together) i am really depressed all the time. we both work odd shifts and barely get to see each other. on his days off he just wants to relax and doesnt want to get together.cant go to his house as me and his family had a major falling out. all i do is cry and nothing makes me happy any more.sometimes feel like giving up. he says im putting too much pressure on him and im being selfish. dont know what to do.help

Answer 1

i'm 24 weeks pregnant and in the same boat as u..kinda. i live with my bf, but he buggers of out all the time so i hardly see him. what ur suffering from is antenatal depression and i'm afraid 2 say it, but it most likely means u'll also hav postnatal depression 'too. i've just been hunting online for summat 2 help cuz i duno abt u, i dnt fancy the doc's telln me theres bugger all they can do cuz i'll prob start cryn @ him!! lol. try gettn hold of this book, Antenatal and Postnatal Depression - advice and support for all sufferers' by Siobhan Curham and published by Vermilion.
its got hints on how 2 beat it n all that n stuff 4 ur partner 2, so he can support u thru it. wuldn't kno if its any good, but i'd guess its worth a try

Answer 2

Depression is common in pregnancy, but this has nothing to do with it. You are lonely and going through the pregnancy alone. That should not be. You need to call him and tell him yall need to discuss the issue further. You did not make this baby alone.

I am sorry that you are going through this, you need some guidance and support, if you are in school please go to your school counselor. If you are in colledge they have counselors as well. It is hard being alone during this time, I did not have to be alone I had my husband. My best friend went through what you are going through though. I was there if she needed a shoulder to cry on but at the time I was not pregnant and never had been. When I look back on those days I feel affaul that I could not do more, she needed more help than I could give her.

Please know that there is someone in this world who loves you and I don't even know you. I do know what it is to be lonely though. Don't give up, fight for you and your baby.

Answer 3

Sounds like you're having a rough time. Ask him if he wants to be involved in the birth of the baby. That should peek his interest. You need moral support right now and he should understand that you're only asking for a little of his time. When you talk to him try not to throw anger at him or involve his family in the conversation. Make it about you, him and the baby. Tell him that you WANT him to be a part of the birth and that you want him involved but in order for that to happen you need his participation. Make sure you make him understand that you need to know what his involvement will be once the baby gets here. Will he be a standin father or will he be involved completely?

Try making a date to dinner. See what he says. Good luck and hope this helps.

Answer 4

Talk to your ob/gyn.

As far as the boyfriend is concerned, it sounds like he's not much of a support system for you. Time for you two to sit down as adults and have a heart to heart talk. If his main concern on his days off is to relax what is going to do when baby comes? Children don't understand that it's Daddy's day off and he can't be bothered.

Him stating that your putting too much pressure on him and your being selfish is a crock of crap. Your the one that is taking care of growing a new life.

Sorry to get on my soap box. Take good care of yourself and that beautiful little person your helping to bring into this world.

Answer 5

Definately speak with your Dr now because post-partum depression can be even worse. Depression in pregnancy can also lead to post partum psychosis which can be extremely dangerous for both mother and child.

If your issues are related directly to your situation with your SO then perhaps you just need a break- even a weekend away can be quite refreshing.

Answer 6

its your hormones chic they are up the wall when you are pregnant dont give up stick with it i am sure in time you wil get a place together and just think about your bundle of joy that will be here before you know it try to make your quality time together special good luck

Answer 7

HE says that YOU are putting too much pressure on HIM?????? Arrogant sod! You need to talk to him about this situation, and why he is acting like a pr**k.
Apart from that, i would visit your midwife and tell her how you are feeling, she will be able to help you. Good luck!

Answer 8

Spk with your GP. Your moods are bound to be up and down anyway, but if you have a serious depression, then you need to speak to your doctor, particularly as it may lead to post-natal depression.

Answer 9

I had depression while pregnant...you need to take care of yourself so the baby will be fine, try not to worry about your boyfriend, men have no idea what you are going through

Answer 10

You may want to read this article http://www.healthadel.com/articles/9/1/Depression-Treatments/Page1.html i found will be useful also has info on different treatments.