me and my gf have a problem. we are wanting to be together more than anything but their are majob problems. she is the sole income for her aunt and shes tired of supporting her aunt but shes a good person and wont leave her to rot (sorta speak) she is a person that is a pleaser and likes to please everyone. her job is causing her alot of trouble and so much stress but she cant leave because of what i said before. and she is on the verge of a nervous break down and im just about long side her. please i need help what do i do. do i go get her and take her with me to my place to live, do i ask her to do it, do i go live with her, im just so confused i need help. please help me.
2007-01-14 03:18:44 · 5 answers · asked by lxahlers 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
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2007-01-14 03:21:57 · update #1
her aunt isnt disabled shes 35 and full fit
2007-01-14 03:48:15 · update #2
She shouldn't have to support her aunt. Is her aunt sick or completely disabled or something? If not than the aunt has absolutely NO RIGHT to depend on your girlfriend for income. I know your girlfriend feels morally obligated to but she needs to have a talk with the rest of the family because while helping family out is ok, it should never take over your life so completely that you're about to have a nervous break down. I might be able to suggest more options if i knew what the aunt's situation was. But definitely encourage her to bring the other family members in on this. THEY are related to this aunt too and if everyone chipped in a bit it wouldn't be so hard on your girlfriend.
2007-01-14 03:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by kestrelk8 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have your girlfriend contact the department of aging in her city. They offer many services that will ease the burden of caring for an elderly person. If the aunt is not elderly, but disabled, try contacting a group that supports that condition. They offer respite care, a person who can relieve your girlfriend for a weekend, and other supportive services.
As for the job, tell her to hold onto it for the income, but begin updating her resume and look for something else.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-14 03:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds just a little like your boyfriend does not rather have his priorities directly. If this has been an extended-time period courting, then he quite turns out egocentric and really thoughtless of you and your ought to develop towards him by way of spending time. Sure, all of us want peers, however our peers will have to be components to our lives and no longer intent pointless disorders among 2 men and women who love every different. Furthermore, I do not believe it's the proper factor in your boyfriend to do if he's enabling his pal to talk harshly of you. At 36, his priorities will have to quite be extra aligned than they appear. I'm going to ship you a hyperlink (or 2) that I've discovered very useful. Although I am married, it's nonetheless a courting among 2 men and women who love every different. So the foundations nonetheless follow:) I wish I've helped. God bless.
2016-09-07 23:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most states have a Adult Protective Services branch of their Department of Human Services. Sounds like regardless of her aunt could draw some sort of benefit and not rely on your girlfriend, she should go talk with a worker about the situation.
2007-01-14 03:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley Marie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump her...for me
2007-01-14 03:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by shared account. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋