Have you got any tips how to start liking some who you can't stand... at all?

Question

Let's say it's for a good cause

Answer 1

As some one else has said grit your teeth and bare them...

Answer 2

Sounds like your best friend is with a jerk?? Well you have to find something good or admirable about that person. Something that you like even if it is small. Like I have a father in law that is, well, no insult can fully describe him but as horrible as he is to humans he is great with animals. So when I think about him I try to think of how he is with animals. You need to find something about this person that you like and think about that when you think about that person. All people , even the most horrible have some good in them and you have to find that good part of that person. Other then that you will have to bite your lip and do not say anything that could anger this person toward you. But make a note of it somewhere so that when you finally do not have to "like" this person any more you can let them have it and tell them everything you think is horrible about them,, its something to look forward to at least :) and you never know they may realize what they are doing and change themselves.. people do have that capacity though they rarely do change themselves unless someone points it out.

Answer 3

Try not to concentrate on the things that bother you about the person. Try to find out more things about this person that you wouldn't know right away. Is there a reason this person is like this? Maybe they are putting on a front because their life outside what you already know about them is so terrible.

I've found that when someone is extremely annoying or mean or just plain not nice. . .it's because they've usually experienced something awful and you just need to break through their walls and find the person underneath.

Maybe they have something in common with you. . . music, tv show, style? Or maybe you can help them to like something you do.

Answer 4

Who said there is anything wrong with disliking someone?

Even God said, "Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated." If this person has personality traits that continue to bring out disdainful behavior, maybe it is 100% okay for you to dislike them. The world is a blend of good folks and bad. Each person is accountable for their own behavior. None of us are accountable for the behavior of others.

You'll be far better off associating with people with good character than with people who hack you off. Perhaps you ought to consider what makes more sense - being true to yoourself or placing more value in the "merit of the good cause."

Answer 5

Sometimes, people who are great friends have started off disliking each other at first. So, you never know, you could turn out to be the best of friends! Maybe?!

I would say, try to look at the good things about them. Give it time. Just be friendly and, in time, you might start to think they're not so bad.

Answer 6

We are always going to find people we dont like. But each one has a spirit which ic pure and doesnt like to be in a negative atmosphre, so if we look past the person and feel sorry for the spirit within then we can all make a diference. you never know you might even like the person once you realy get to know them. if not then send out nice thoughts to them then stand back from them. Be sociable and polite and commpassionate, i always find in those cases there is something that the person cant handle in their lives so feel commpassion for them. it turns things around.

Answer 7

I've had to do this a couple of times for work reasons. I start by being really really friendly to the person every time I see them. I ask them all about themselves and their lives. I kind of go overboard on the friendliness thing.

They generally respond to this pretty well (everybody likes to be liked and interesting) and this makes them less of a pain to me.

Keep doing it and you can find that you don't actually dislike the person as much as you thought you did.

Answer 8

Try to think of at least three things about that person that you like (even a little bit). Remind yourself that they are one of (insert deity here)'s creatures and deserve to live their lives as much as you do. Avoid them as much as possible but when you see them think about something you really like so your smile looks genuine and keep conversation light. Glorify in being such a good person for allowing them to live. By all means, allow yourself something lovely if you make it through an encounter ok. If all fails, carry one of those stress toys in your pocket so if they really annoy you, you can pretend you're squeezing their tiny little head until it pops right off.

Answer 9

You can not like someone you can't stand, but you can figure out what it is about that person that you don't like and then make a decision to ignore that part and no matter how much that irretates you just let it go. Like water off a duck's back....

You've don't have to like it but learn to live with it.

Answer 10

Read Your Personality Tree by Florence W. Littauer. I really liked this book. Understanding how other people think explained a lot to me and I had more patience with the ones that drove me crazy before.

Answer 11

Look for the good in that person, because somewhere there must be some. There also must be some underlying reason that you dislike this person, I read once that if you dislike someone its because you see part of yourself that you would like to avoid, so I'd say find out why you don't like them and sort yourself out!