We have been together for a little over 6 months...The first 4 months were GREAT until one morning I woke up and HATED him.I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder a few days later and I have been on pills now for about a month and a half...(whether or not these are irrationaly thoughts because of my anixety i dont know)..
He is wonderful, he is very attractive, has a great job, incredibly trustworhty, he would be a FANTASTIC Dad, Wonderful personality, friendly, caring etc etc....
I just dont know why I dont feel love for him anymore...Why could this be?
I still like doing nice things for him like making him dinners, surprising him at work, cleaning the house, We still have sex often and I am still committed....
But why dont I feel the love?
I dont even want anyone else either....I cant imagine someone else touching me and me enjoying it...All I would be doing is thinking about him!
2007-01-14 03:13:22 · 14 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that you love him, but that you're still working through your anxiety/depression issues. Sometimes, those will keep you from feeling major emotions. I don't know what you're taking for your anxiety, but some of those drugs damper ALL of your emotions, NOT just the anxiety.
Not being about to see yourself with someone else is a great indicator that you DO love him. The fact that you love doing nice things for him and that you care that he feels loved and wanted shows that you love him.
Try to imagine yourself kissing someone else, or better yet, SLEEPING with someone else. If it nauseates you, no matter how you think you feel, you're in love.
Talk to your doc about your meds, though, as this can be dampening your emotions.
2007-01-14 03:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety Disorders
Lack of self-esteem, self-rejection, self-hatred and guilt are very damaging to the human spirit and are many times caused by a father, although in some cases it can be the mother. Somewhere, there has been a lack of nurturing in childhood. Sometimes it can be inherited because the lack of nurturing has not been there from generation to generation.
Females taking drugs for depression or anxiety may lose their sex drive. You are depressed and anxious and you think that you have lost all interest or he has lost all interest and he's not chasing you. That only creates more anxiety, more guilt, more rejection and more conflict. This can cause even a further decrease in serotonin levels, and now you have a bigger problem; a deeper depression.
The only way to unravel this problem is to take a look at what may be causing this serotonin deficiency, and that is a spiritual problem. Take your problem to the Lord, just like you brought it to us.
2007-01-14 03:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you are confused. If you are enjoying making him dinner, surprising him at work,making love etc I would say that you really love the man . You wonder why you don´t feel love, but I think you do. You just don´t realize that the feeling you get when you want to do nice things for him, is LOVE! I hope you will feel better soon and I am sure you will have a wonderful and healthy relationship!!
2007-01-14 03:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww. Well everything seems to be going well between the two of you. I guess it depends. Sounds like you do a lot for him. Does he do nice things for you? Maybe you're overwhelmed by things outside your relationship. I fell in love with my boyfriend but as I was dating him I found out things from his past that affected the way i felt about him. I'm slowly getting past all that and he continues to reassure me that he loves me and is happy. If you can't think of a reason, you should maybe see a therapist or you can continue to give it some time. Good luck.
2007-01-14 03:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by karenlm215 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything drastic, talk to a counselor. It sounds like your going through a really rough time emotionally right now.
Give yourself a break, and dont be hard on yourself. Give it sometime before you call it quits if your not sure your ready for it.
Right now your chemicals in your body are not balanced right and it can make you feel alot of different ways. You took the right step in getting help for your disorder. Thats a beginning, so dont give up. good luck.
2007-01-14 03:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...don't fret. This happens to all of us sooner or later. We all go through slumps in our relationships. At the beginning of a "love" relationship, it's like you can't keep your hands and other parts off each other and you are really sickening to all your friends at this stage of the relationship. You wake up one day (as you did) and find...wow....I don't feel the same way. This is NORMAL! Your relationship turns a corner and you don't feel the "passion" as it was in the beginning...NORMAL! However, you should be feeling comfortable in the relationship as it matures. "Love" isn't just the "physical" or adoration; it is also "trust", "companionship", "understanding", having a soft place to fall. Talk to him. Sounds like you are reading a lot into the "Love" part. But you say you "hate" him...not good if this is really the case.
Good Luck!
2007-01-14 03:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by tublugator08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the answer to your own question and you don't even know it. You are not in love with this person. When you are truly in love with a person you don't have to second guess yourself. You just know it. The opposite that you are doing now.
2007-01-14 03:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the pills you are on are affecting you more than you think. Go check with the Dr. before this gets too serious.
2007-01-14 03:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 02:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by doti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound's like you need to give your medicine a chance to work.I think you may have a chemical imbalance.You are having issues within yourself it is obvious that he is not the one with the problem you may need to seek professional help.Good luck
2007-01-14 03:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋