I recently baptised my daugther anglican, as my fiance and I are both anglican, and my friend is mad that I did that. She said it should be up to my child when they get older to make that decision and I should of waited. I try to tell her that we, as parents make decisions for our children, I mean we don't wait till they are old enough to ask them what elementary school they want to attend, and when she gets older she can choose to either attend church or not. I will not push that on her. I just feel its my decision to baptise her, invite her into gods hands, and my friend harps about it all the time. I avoid talking to her now, but shes an important part of my life, and I don't want this to ruin our friendship. She has no children, and this is what she will do when she does, let her child be baptised later if they want. I tell her its my choose and she won't let go of it. What can I do??
2007-01-14 03:12:29 · 10 answers · asked by Proud Mother 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Honestly, I would tell my friend to kick rocks. If she knows that you and your husband are in the church, then a baptism is to be expected. Kudos to you for sticking to your guns!! Is it not the job of parents to provide their children with spiritual and life guidance??? If you don't want to lose your friendship over something like this, try talking to her about other things or bring over great new pics of the baby and springboard conversation from there.
2007-01-14 03:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is catholic. I have baptized both my girls when they were just babies. And you know what? that is exactly what I was doing is inviting God into our lives. Your friend may not agree with you and criticize you for it but don't let her get you down. I mean if my kids don't want to go to church when they get older then that is there own problem. But when they are in my home and I am feeding them and clothing them, then I will be the one to make the decision. See my mother is Mormon and I didn't want to tell her I was getting my first child baptized because I thought she would be angry at me. Well she told me that she is my daughter and I can do as I wish. She has never criticized me for baptizing either of my kids. But if your friend cannot accept your actions then that is her own problem. Tell her look if you don't like what I did then that is your own problem. But don't you dare talk to me about it if you want to hang out with me. If she can't get past this then that is her problem and she will be the one losing a friendship.
2007-01-14 03:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I happen to agree with your mom that it's pointless to baptise and infant; baptism is an outward sign of an inward commitment like wearing a wedding ring--doesnt make you married but shows everyone you are. Baptism should be a voluntary thing after a person has reached the age of accountablilty and has been saved. HOWEVER I don't think it does any HARM, and you might point that out to her. It's like , it's senseless to put on your makeup before taking a shower, but it doesn't do any HARM to do so, it's just pointless.
2007-01-14 03:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All 3 of my boys have been baptized by the time they have been a month previous. we are an rather non secular family members, and in our faith you will desire to not take them out until they are baptized, it is why that's carried out as a toddler and not as an grownup. merely simply by fact they are baptized as a toddler, that doesn't recommend they are being compelled into the religion although. while they are interior the 8th grade they have the possibility to obtain confirmation, it is them confirming the certainty that they like to be Catholic. while you at the instant are not non secular, and that's not some thing you prefer, then don't have it achieved. Have your little ones make that decision while they are sufficiently previous to take action on their very own. sturdy success.
2016-10-19 23:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by rochart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like a major B. If she has that much of a problem with it then she does not seem like a real friend. THOUSAND of people have their baby baptised. I didn't have mine but I don't see the big deal at all. If people really follow gods way they need to learn to accept all people and not judge others and it sounds like your friend is not doing that. I would ignore her forever, does not sound like someone I would want in my life but if that is not the case for you then she is the one that needs to come to you I would still ignor her.
2007-01-14 03:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell simply that this decision is between you and your husband and no one else so butt out! It's none of her business. I myself am baptised but my husband isn't we decided not to baptise our children but I still take them to church every sunday so that they can learn for themselves and if they coose to make that decision I WILL BAPTISE THEM! I think deep down I wish they were but marriage it all about comprimise. My husband has no problem with me taken them to church and teaching them so that they can make an informed decision ontheir own so I think thats why I try so hard to teach them in hopes that they will make that decision!
Tell your friend that religion is sometheing that you do within your family and it has nothing to do with her so YOu don't want to discuss it with her anymore, it's between your family not hers!
2007-01-14 03:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is Protestant, I practice Buddhism, and my husband is Catholic. My son attends a Methodist school.
:-) I want my son to learn as much as he can about all different religions and choose which is best for him. My son is not baptized and I wanted it this way. I feel what you choose to believe in helps makes you the person you are.
2007-01-14 03:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my belief as a Christian baptism comes after you trust Christ and you do it declare your faith to others. I do believe in christening/dedicating your baby to God, which is like baby baptism. You and your husband do what you like. It's up to your daughter eventually whether or not she chooses to trust in Christ. Just bring her up and raise the way the Bible instructs, pray for her often and love her and your spouse. Put God first and the rest will fall into place. Congrats on your daughter's birth!
2007-01-14 03:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally...I agree with your friend about the choice being left to your child about being baptized. However, your friend has no right to push her beliefs on you. It is your child and you should do what you believe. Even if her beliefs are different from yours she should respect your decision and move on.
2007-01-14 03:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by foxiegixxergurl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS ONE IS A LITTLE TOUCHY! YOU WANT TO DO WHAT YOU THINK IS RIGHT AND AT THE SAME TIME YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE A FRIEND. BUT A NEW BABY IS BORN AS PURE AND INNOCENT FROM SIN AND EVIL UNTIL THEY REACH THE AGE OF ACCOUNTABILITY. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR FRIEND
2007-01-14 03:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by danbar2 dig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋