2007-01-14 03:05:01 · 87 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesn't leave her within a year he's not going to.
2007-01-14 03:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got a nerve to ask.
Obviously, I cannot judge you since I don't know all the details, but it seems to me that you didn't choose the easiest of situations.
Well, what do you expect; When you marry someone and have been together for some time, it not easy to let go, even though it's not the best of marriages. You have habits, comfort and you know each other.
So, if this guy also has children, it's even more difficult to let go.
So, it may be that he'll never leave his wife.
How do you know for sure he ever intended to?
What marriage doesn't have its ups and downs?
What makes you believe he's not just a chancer?
Sounds like you don't trust him, and I can't say I'm blaming you.
I think you should give him an ultimatum and if he only answers with excuses, then you'll have your answer.
Next time, try and get yourself a single guy, it would simplify things for you.
2007-01-14 04:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will never leave his wife. He will give you all sorts of story's and make all kinds of excuses but he won't leave her. What you are to him is the meal that he can't get at home. He'll tell you over and over how much he loves you and you'll believe it because that's what you want to hear. If by some miracle that he does leave her how certain are you that he could be faithful to you? So you might as well face it now. If you don't stop this you are wasting your time. There will be no holidays, no special occasions and no real life together. The time spent will be on the sly out if sight of public view. Your life will be forever waiting and wanting and in the end you'll end up losing. The best years of your life will be lost never to be regained.
2007-01-14 03:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by quantumview 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, my mom always said that a sure way to hell is one a man makes himself. You're letting someone else dictate your life....a man who could care less about you. If it was love he wouldn't be married, if he was going to leave his wife he would've left her before he met you. You will not be the only reason why he's leaving her...you're the side dish where's she's the meal. She and you both deserve someone who respects you both enough, to want to be with you and only you. Save yourself the heartbreak and leave now, if you don't he'll find someone more attractive, and younger while you're sitting at home making your way to the last of the Rocky Road ice cream, weighing 200 pounds and making threatening phone calls to his new squeeze. Whatever goes around comes around babe, you cheat you get cheated on. Just wait until you get married and karma comes back on you. Cheaters don't stop cheating. Nothing and no one is ever enough for them. If by some chance he does marry you, what makes you so different from his wife? Looks don't matter, and your personality show much because you're sleeping with a married man anyway. You'll get married, and he'll leave you for someone younger...you'll never be able to please him. You need to make your mends with his wife and then go on with your life, with someone who really loves you. Good luck babe!
2007-01-14 03:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First issues first. you would be truthful including your spouse. it is not in any respect ordinary to end a marriage much greater so with ones that have little ones. you may inform your spouse what is going on. might you like it if she exchange into cheating on you? of path not. have you ever tried going to a councilor? in keeping with possibility which will help. If certainly you marriage is ineffective you're able to do numerous different stuff before you get any greater suitable with this new female. your little ones are those you would be questioning of first. you may ensure the place they're going to stay? How plenty baby assist you pays? Does your new female like little ones. might she ideas in the event that they stayed with you all of the time? etc. additionally, what occurs after a pair of years is going by utilising and this new female provides on some kilos and the passions starts to die down. What then? yet another new female? i'm not attempting to be a jerk or something yet what you're doing marvelous now's faulty. If the marriage is over then end it. basically then are you able to start questioning a pair of latest lifestyles with somebody else.
2016-12-16 04:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Sassygirl - except I was going to say:
Too long, is the minute after you find out he is married.
Married men don't leave their family over their lover. Why buy the cow, when the milk is free?
Besides - even if he did - why would you think that history wouldn't repeat itself? He is seeing you on the side - let's imagine he does leave, and the 2 of you are together - how long until he has someone on the side then? And how long until he leaves YOU for the next one??
2007-01-14 04:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Michael, Count de Berçon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it with you women?
STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN.
There are millions of single guys out there.Go and find your own. There's a very high possibility that he will never leave his wife. After all why should he? He has the best of both worlds a wife AND a girlfriend.
2007-01-14 11:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Norman Bates 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't be with a married man in the first place. If he hasn't left her yet then he probably won't leave her,so move on with your life and find someone that loves you and has enough respect for you that they won't have to hide a relationship with you. Wouldn't you rather have a man that you could go out with without looking over your shoulder to make sure his wife don't find out??????
2007-01-14 03:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Heyyyyyyyyyy girl get real --- he's married -- more than likely with kids ---mortgage-- a fairly stable way of life --- a boring wife ----he's on a roll --he has a little bit on the side --the excitement stimulates him --you are as good in bed as his wife was when in the "courting situation" -- he's not gonna leave girl -- no mattrer how much he says he loves you --or whatever ---- tell you what -- tell him its you or her ---but have the guts to tell him to get lost and walk away ---if he's that keen on you --he will come with you --- but dont count on it ---and one final thing --- remember he IS being unfaithful -- if he leaves her for you -- will he do it again ???
2007-01-14 05:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by harryinfrance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to leave his wife for you...
I'm a good example and I've been waited for 6 years till presently and still there is no outcome. And yet I'm still continue waiting.. but I guess I will learn to let go..
2007-01-14 03:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a pickle, the question of all time! ha!
Lets just say he DOES leave his wife and marries you! He will have to pay DEARLY in child support and alimony to the spurned wife, you will have to put up with the step kids, they will hate you cause you broke up their home, he will get frustrated over all the hassle, you will become a nagging wife, and guess what, he will find a new little friend, "that understands him, cause his wife just do things with him!"
A liar and a cheat is usually always a liar and a cheat, the butterfly feelings of the illicit affair, soon become the dread of hearing him come through the door at night, or NOT coming through the door at night, you will always be waiting for the shoe to fall............RUN now run.......what goes round comes round sistah!!! Or by your profile could it be brutha....in that case you gonna go to hell anyway you rump ranger!
2007-01-14 03:20:16 · answer #11 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋