My fiancee has a friend who was visitng over Christmas and stayed at our house for over 3 weeks. His family lives in our town and all he does is stay in the spare bedroom and sleep or play on the computer or lounge in the living room watching football. When he is in town my fiancee and him maybe hang out once every three days for an hour or so, but the remainder of the time it is like my house is a hotel for him where he doesn't have to pay a thing. My fiancee extended the long welcome without discussing it with me and when it came to three weeks I said he needed to go, but my fiancee doesn't understand my needing some space and the idea of overtaying a welcome. Just curious to see what everyone thinks is an acceptable length of time for someone to visit before they overtay their welcome? Thank you for any help!
2007-01-14 02:49:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am a firm believer that fish, relatives, & friends begin to stink after 3 to 5 days.--------------------------------------Jill----USA
2007-01-14 02:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He should Have stayed with his family.
The discussion should have taken place before his invitation.
3 days would have been plenty. If he has 3 weeks to lay around then perhaps he should have been at his families house and maybe working for the duration.
Your fiancee has alot to learn in consideration that you share the home together. You must make it crystal clear to her that you will discuss this in the future regarding any guests.
My question is why doesn't his family want him to stay with them??
Is it because they know he is a lazy so and so.
3 days max.......
.I think guests are like fish, after 3 days they start to smell.
2007-01-14 03:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you have a very inconsiderate fiance and he is abusing your hospitality for his friends. You are not yet married to him and he is already bossing you and showing off to his friend that he can make you do whatever he wishes. Lock your house when his friend is coming or you also lock your fiance out of your house to show him you are disgusted with both of them. Good riddance !
2007-01-14 03:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a saying about 3 days for fish and house guest---something like that.
At three weeks he should have paid you rent.
2007-01-14 02:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a set amount of time b4 someone out stays there welcome. It is the person themselves, i believe that when you start to think that you would rather be on your own without them there then that's the time u to ask them to leave. If it was me and i was in your situation i would ask him to leave because of the way he is he has out stayed his welcome. Good luck
2007-01-14 03:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dealt with a similair situation.It is definately time for your guest to leave or start paying rent.Tell your fiance how you feel and if she does'nt respect that then you need to leave for a night and get a hotel and tell your fiance you need space that will wake her up.
2007-01-14 02:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋