She has become colder after I gave the present. Actually I'm her client and she had helped me complete an office project by staying up over many nights and project was done exceedingly well. The present was just to show my appreciation. How can I regain her trust and become comfortable with each other as previous? I guess she thinks I've got hidden agenda.
2007-01-14 02:27:38 · 21 answers · asked by europa l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Let her know that you would like to "clear the air" and that the gift was a gift of appreciation and not a gift for fornication. Just be honest with her and go from there. She accepted the gift so you may be reading her wrong. Ask her and be upfront and honest.
Be yourself and be honest!
Good Luck!
'-)
2007-01-14 02:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What was the present? Plasma TV or jewellry? It makes a difference. Do you have a hidden agenda? If you have feelings for this woman, then better "fess up" to her. If it is, in fact, just an appreciation for all the good work she has done (would you give the same present to a man for doing the same job?) then tell her honestly. If it makes her feel better to give the gift back to you then allow her to do that. Tell her you didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable and you feel like a bozo. Be honest...it always works.
Cheers!
2007-01-14 02:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by tublugator08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say I noticed you started acting different around this time, was it because I gave you _____? If she says no which she most likely will then you can say well I just wanted to let you know I gave it to you for this reason. That will solve it and you have nothing to lose because she is already acting cold. I also stopped dating a guy when he took me to a restraunte where no prices were on the menu and the total was over 100 bucks for him and I and I didn't even drink pop I drank water. It made me feel really uncomfortable because I thought we were just friends but friends do not do that, boyfriends do. Maybe she thinks you are a lesbian or something. Tell the truth and solve it you have nothing to lose.
2007-01-14 02:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in simple terms refer to HER. tell her truly that you be conscious that she looks to have develop into less warm in direction of you and ask even if u did something that would hv led to some false impression. If she likes u, per chance she theory your moves of giving expensive present and something else u did were not consistent & she did not recognize if you're truthful in direction of her. if it really is the case, best for you and also you in effortless words hv to coach your self as someone she will be able to believe. If she would not see u as better than a buddy, being chilly in direction of u should be her thanks to inform u that she's not interested in you as a existence-better half and she or he's afraid your expensive present skill you've an pastime in her. if it really is the case, tell her you fee friendship then pls again off so as that she isn't freaked out even extra by technique of the stalking. u can tell which difficulty it truly is by technique of gazing her different words and alerts, or ask her (e mail her in case you are able to believe her to save the e-mail own) or get a relied on mutual buddy to assist.
2016-11-23 17:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by cerchia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that she reacted negatively. You can fix everything by explaining to her that the gift was given out of gratitude for all of her hard work and nothing more. Tell her that you have great respect for her and you hope that the gift didn't imply that you had a hidden agenda.
2007-01-14 02:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe sincerely tell her that the expensive gift is just a nice gesture to show how marvelous her work is, and u r looking forward to another chance of collaboration. Don't worsen it by saying these as if you are like covering up something. Tell her those sincerely and casually will be more pursuasive.
2007-01-14 02:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by I am only human 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont have a hidden agenda, you'll have nothing to worry about because your actions towards her would not support her hunch about you.
perhaps she likes you and she was caught off guard with your sudden and expensive show of appreciation.
you don't have to do anything to prove her wrong. just give her some time and then she'll figure out that you are a genuinely nice guy.
2007-01-14 02:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by james b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her openly with no pressure. Tell heer you understand it seems awkward and that you did not mean to change anything between the two of you and had no hidden agenda...and maybe she will come around be patient, and after that I would never mention it again.
2007-01-14 02:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Missy Lyons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up with her. If it was strictly a "Thank You" Then tell her it was just a thank you and nothing more. Just tell her how happy the project being done so well, and on time made you and that you wanted her to know and there was nothing else tied to the gift. Just THANK YOU!
2007-01-14 02:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with her and explain your reason behind the present, if she wont listen send her a thank you card & write a letter in the card to explain. Good luck
2007-01-14 02:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋