I watch a movie yesterday of a man telling beautiful words to her lover, it reminded me of how much I wanted a romantic guy for a husband when I was a teenager. Then I met my now husband who is a complete anti romance, he told me that most men cant be romantic, and that if I was in my search for one it was going to take me forever.
Is this true?
2007-01-14 02:26:48 · 10 answers · asked by Alejandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is absolutely right - there are very few straight men who are romantic. Remember, you women grow up reading romance novels, so you know all about that stuff. Us guys don't, so we don't have a clue about what you mean when you want us to "be romantic".
2007-01-14 02:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen both ends of the spectrum. I have been involved with a man who was all about romance, emotion and expression...and also with a man who doesn't know the first thing about it. A romantic guy is rare, but they do exist. Now try finding a romantic guy that is responsible, hard working and can put substance behind all those pretty words. Finding the complete package is much harder.
2007-01-14 02:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello =)
Well.....
My girlfriend wants me to answer this.....LOL Her answer is right above mine....LOL She is Mouseling....
Sustaining a romantic heart, for a man, over the course of an entire lifetime is something like trying to keep a candle burning forever.......it just can't happen... Sooner or later, it will be consumed. The amount of energy it takes to be romantic, for a man, is extreme, to say the least. Few can handle it for any length of time, and no man can sustain it indefinitely. It is painful, and it will consume you completely, if you let it.
If we could trust our women, I suppose, to always respond appropriately, and never, EVER, hurt us, even in the slightest possible way, it could be done.......but where is there such a woman?? It would require a woman to be "perfectly attuned" to our every thought, word, and deed.....and such a thing is unrealistic, even if the woman is "perfect".....
To be so emotionally sensitive, and aware of the object of your affections, it requires you to remove every single layer of self-protection, and bare yourself completely to your woman. When you do that, even the smallest "error" on her part can destroy you completely.
I know, because I've been there, and have done that.
You can create a perfect "glass house" of love, by doing all of this... keeping everything in the world out, but you and the woman you love...... but the smallest thing can shatter it, and bring it all crashing down around you....
When it shatters, it is difficult to not be destroyed, and you will never look at life the same way again.
So, I suppose, any man can be the sort of man who can be the "perfect romantic"......but maintaining that level of intensity of emotion is not very good for him, to say the least.... Furthermore, can you be the sort of woman who can inspire this, or prevent him from destroying himself?
Namaste,
--Tom
2007-01-14 02:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Might be, although I've always told my lovers how goofy I think chick flick romance is and probably discouraged any attempts if such attempts even exist. I think that if my lover tried to do anything like that I would burst out laughing. Even though I'm a woman, I don't do romantic. Do people actually behave like that?
2007-01-14 02:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 04:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by vogt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married, and there's nothing I hate more than women who grow up watching stupid TV shows, and movies about guys doing such romantic things. I enjoy those show and movies, and books as much as anyone else, but it's FICTION. Hell I watch movies where women do some extra sexy things for their man, but I don't expect that crap, that's not the real world.
2007-01-14 03:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Allen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is not at all.... we have a very boring life in that way. If I want romance, I have to do it. Just the way it is...
I think they are at first, when the relationship is new... though he wasn't then either. I got flowers several times before we married, and then after we have been married 9 yrs, i have gotten them only twice.
No jewelry, nothing...
2007-01-14 02:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is hard for a man to be romantic .We were always brought up to be macho and to protect ,provide for and work hard for our women .We often hide our feelings to avoid feeling less manly .
Women should realize when we open doors for thenm,cook a meal for them or even compliment them ,that is our realm of being romantic .There are men who " Play "the Game with you ,but they are focusing on going to bed with you ,that is not who they are .
2007-01-14 02:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we all want romantic men for husbands however this is not a fairy tale world.. yes there are romantic men out there however 99% of them do not show their romantic nature as they may have in their younger days due to past experiences, such as spouses who took advantage of their romantic nature to get whatever they wanted from them then treated them like dirt afterwards.. i'm sorry to say that it seems these types of women have made it hard or nearly impossible for us to bring out that romantic nature again..
2007-01-14 02:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he wrong be romantic come from the heart and soul even if its just a card to say i love you or to say thank for being you or send you candy and flower because youre special yes there are still old knight who are looking for their lady who need help
2007-01-14 03:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋