she would have a good job i would be starting all over i feel it would put a strain on our relationship and she only wants to go across the country to get away from her controling sister she cant tell back off 2 am i wrong for asking her 2 stay when her heart is set on moving? only real repsonses please!
2007-01-14 02:12:40 · 5 answers · asked by shawn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is a difficult situation. You need to figure out if this is the girl for you? Will starting out in a new place really be that difficult? Difficult questions to answer. She might resent you if you tell her not to go. It is something she feels like that she needs to do. Maybe after she goes she might realize that this isnt the job for her and move back. Personally I say let her go and see what happens with her job and all. Stay together. Talk to each other everyday and deeply consider moving out there with her if she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Relationships take compromise. Also open communication. Which means. Also talk to her about how you feel (without tellinf her not to go). How you will miss her, how you feel about her and all. See what happens with what she says.
Good luck.
2007-01-14 02:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to move, let her know. If she insists that she will move regardless if you move or not, at that point the ball is in your court. You need to ask yourself the following:
Do I see myself in a long lasting relationship (possibly marriage) with this woman?
If I stay, will I lose out on potential opportunities if I had moved?
Some people get comfortable with their environment and do not welcome change (even if it means good). But if you know now that you cannot handle a move, then you shouldnt. You need to be prepared for change. Some people stay in one place for the rest of their lives and just watch the world pass them by. But if that makes you happy, that is ok.
2007-01-14 02:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by InterNite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you have to let her go and let her spread her wings. If you are truly meant for each other, then you will be reunited. Besides, travel nowadays is so easy that you could always visit her. The one thing you have to do is be supportive of her plans if she is really set on it. Show her that you would prefer her to stay but that if she wants to go, then you would not also stand on her way.
2007-01-14 02:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by woman in the well 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course not! if you really love her then u would want her to stay i think you should take a shot at it its worth a try and who knows there's a good chance she will say yes but in the end it will be her choice it may work out even if she does decide to move.
Good luck hope it all works out 4 u!!!
2007-01-14 02:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by blonde and proud of it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love her, say that you want her to stay so that you move your relationship to the next level. (whatever that may be, engagement, marriage) because women wont stay if you just want them to, but wont commit to something. basically, you have to give her a reason to stay that outweighs the reason that she want to leaeve. or you could say that you want to go with her...
2007-01-14 02:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by celine marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋