I am almost 14 my friends say am wiered cos I do not date.I study instead am at the top of my classes.Am I normal?
2007-01-14 02:00:38 · 13 answers · asked by ISABELLE 1 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
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ok.now they say you are weird because you're not dating, next time you go dating and NOT having (sorry) sex, they probably say you're weird as well. then you'll ask again, am i weird for not having sex at 'young' age?
what i'm trying to say is have dating just because you want it not because your friends want you to.
it's ok at your age that you pursue top grade (i did that at my 14...i'm always at 4 top in the class)...
and one day, i grew up and start to see and like boys but that came naturally, not because my friends say i'm weird.
my advice is, have friends as much as you can. hang out with them, know them andddd select them, too at last. that will be protect you from bad influencing friends.
by having a lot of friends, you'll know the characteristic of people around you, make you learn to understand them and...yourself. it's like when you know one boy, ah, he's like this. hmm..dont like it and another boy, aha, he's cool and i like talking to him. i'm having connected with him.
then from such little things, you'll find out what kind of man that suits you (and vice versa ofcourse...)...
my mistake is i didn't socialize too much so when i'm having my first love (not date...hehe), i really don't know how to handle it. i think i was weirdo than ever...hahaha...
hey, i don't know whether you're boy or girl, so if i said what kind of man...so you can modify it what kind of girl...
good luck with the study!!!anyway, i just remember that my friends at 15 yo used to tell me this problem. i remember she said,"oh, thank God, i finally like someone..." she was afraid because she has no one to be likee at that time...my respond?...just looking at her with question mark face...what's wrong with that girlll?
2007-01-14 02:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow.
was it a coincidence you posted this question here in Egypt category?
I am going to tell you how things go here. You DON'T date. Don't as in DO NOT.
Here the girls can socialize with boys when they are like 18 and they do it for the sake of marriage only.
When a guy likes a girl, they can meet eachother for 2 or 3 times maximum, then if they like eachother , they can take things to the next level; engagement , Then if they feel they are ready, they get married. There is no such a thing as pre-marital sex.
That's at least how things go in my city, Ismailia and among my people. So if you are asking if you are normal or not , my answer will be :
HELL YEAHHH
2007-01-14 16:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is so wrong with that? You choose not to date and instead concentrate on your school work. There is nothing weird about that. There is no rule that says just because you are 14 and all of your friends or classmates are dating that you have to automatically have to start dating.
2007-01-14 10:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by kerrberr95 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very normal. It's ok not to date. U are still too young. School is important and should come first at this stage of ur life. U'll have plenty of time to date later. Ignore ur friends. Life has more to it than just dating. Enjoy and grow!
2007-01-15 01:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by fldrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal is a very bad word as it has no true definition in life.
It is more important to be true to your own heart not to just follow
what others around you think you should do. Do whats comfortable for you. Probably some time in the future there will be someone that you really want to be with that is important to you. That person you date. Don't just follow.
2007-01-14 10:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Card Modeler 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No You're not if you stay like that for long. Girl , if you look good enough someguy's gotta have the pleasure of getting to date you.
about being the top of your class ...I presume you're in egypt since this question is posted in the egypt section . You can be dating whatever guy 7 days a freeking week for that matter and still make the top of your class . Trust me i happen to know that country
2007-01-14 11:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the problem with everyone these days is that they think that life revolves around romantic realtionships.....NO IT DOESNT there are alot of other different things that are also more important or as important in life..... so if u chose to concentrate more on your studies now i think its for the best, you have the rest of your life to find a date or go on a date when you actually want to and not when your pressured into going on one.
2007-01-14 13:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell u what? u r better than ur friends...u're still 14, u're still too young to date...y they want u to break ur heart early...
i start dating when i was at ur age n i really regret it now sooo much, i'm 23 years old by the way....i got nothing but bad memories that i wish i could turn back time to earse them from my life...
believe me u're completley normal, keep on studying and at the right time u'll find someone who really deserves, love, respect and appreciate u..there is no need to rush, just enjoy ur life...
good luck :)
2007-01-16 05:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by ^Butterfly^ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is if you want to go on a date then go who nose it might be a study date! And I do think it is normal to study but don't put to much preachier okay.
2007-01-14 10:11:18 · answer #9 · answered by Shawn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ur normal cuz i almost 15 and ichoose not to date and study instead. i also concentrae on God. i try to spend time with my family and friends and its better this way.
2007-01-14 18:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by Daraweesh rocks!=) aka Shankooty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋