Wonder if you making the right choices? Like im in that spot with my boyfriend we have been together for 4yrs now and he doesnt want to grow up. He want to move to vegas and I don't . We both have been like well maybe we should split bc things are just getting worse with us. Either of us are really that happy. We have a yr old baby together and He makes me feel gulity b/c he says if i dont move with him im taking the baby away from him. We fight and Argue a lot. The reason of not wanting to move is b/c he wants to get back into smoking pot and gambling. If he can't get a good paying job here, then how do i know he can get one there and be able to support me and the baby. ya know. I have a fear of what can happens if we move and split and his sister has money and would try taking the baby away from me. He wants me to move 1400 miles away from my family. I need some advice on what to do, what do you think is right. Do you think Im wrong in what im doing?
2007-01-14 02:00:30 · 11 answers · asked by Kristy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should stay here where you can have help and be happy. Why on earth would you want to have your child in an environment where there is gambling and drugs. Dept of social services would be called on you and you could lose the baby. FORGET him. He's not wanting to grow up, he doesnt care about his child, or you for that matter. Let him go. Get help with your family. As long as you are working, going to school, not doing anything illegal and are being helped by your family, there's nothing that him or anyone else can do to take away your baby. You need to leave him now, stay with family and get custody of that child. He'll have his visitation rights and will be paying child support-which beleive me- you will want/need. If you need any help, email me. I've been through it before.s
2007-01-14 02:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to want to stay where you live, you familys there. And if he thinks you taking the baby away then he is wrong. my mom was in the same position that you are in. im happy she made the right choice to stay here because my dad moved some where else and guess what he didnt get a good job and he became an pot head...so just go with what you think is right.best of luck
2007-01-14 10:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using emotional blackmail to try to get you to do what he wants. It's his choice to move so you wouldn't actually be taking the baby away, he'd be choosing to move away from you and the baby. Gambling and smoking pot are not desirable behaviour in a responsible parent who is supposed to be a good role model. If you move away from your family you will be isolated and far away from their support. I think you already know it would be wrong for you and the baby to make this move. I wish you happiness and better choices in future.
2007-01-14 10:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think what your doing is wrong at all. Your using your head and he evidently is not. Just hang tough and if your really not happy in the relationship move out and get a lawyer. Maybe this will motivate him to find a job since he'll have to be paying you child support payments. If your a good mother as it seems I wouldn't' worry so much about his sister. good luck to you ;o)
2007-01-14 10:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has serious issues to deal with. Your child should not be exposed to a pot smoking gambler. The move to Vegas sounds bad because of his weaknesses. You know his vices, its better to let him go now. Your priority should be your baby, it sounds like he has other priorities. If he was truly thinking of you and your baby, he would not knowingly put his family in harm's way.
You need someone who is mature, stable, and with a good head on his shoulders.
2007-01-14 10:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by InterNite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always feel you should weight up the pros and cons. write them down on a piece of paper. talk to you family about it also. then go with your gut feeling. if something is telling you not to do it then dont do it. if it was the right move then you wouldnt be hesitating.
i know this means maybe splitting up but you dont want to be stuck so far away without any family or friends. that will be far worse.
2007-01-14 10:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go, that's not the life that your baby needs to grow up in. Split up now and start a new life for yourself and child all the arguing and fighting isn't good for either of you. good luck Hun xx
2007-01-14 10:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to dump this guy, kick him to the curb. He's more trouble than he's worth. Go back to school using student loans, grants etc. Get a good college education. You can do this all on your own. Don't be afraid to do this.
Once you graduate from college and build up your self-esteem, you'll find a great guy who will fall all over himself and want to support you and marry you and adopt your child.
Take control of your life and move on from this jerk, he's a waste of time.
2007-01-14 10:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont move. and if you are a good mother, like you have never been caught doing drugs, you dont abuse it, you can financially support both of you ect. legally no one can take your baby away bcuz you are the birth mother.
2007-01-14 10:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by make_way_4_the_last_king_of_may 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take the baby and leave his pot smoking and drinking immature ***.
2007-01-14 10:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋