My daughter is on a trip with my ex and his brand new gf to visit his mother for the weekend. I didn't want my daughter exposed to the new gf on a trip as a family yet (we broke up 2 months ago he became exclusive with the new on one month ago even though he told me we were still 'working on it' so i would continue to sleep with him until he fond the replacement) BUT because I wanted her to see her grandmother i let her go. Shes 3. I asked for them to call me last night so I could tlk to her and they said that was fine but never did. Am I wrong for this bothering me and how should I react to it because I am upset adn want them to know It wasn't ok with me esp. since they knew how hard it was for me to let her go in the first place but i dont want to start any drama.
2007-01-14 01:40:10 · 9 answers · asked by xoheidixo10 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The grandmotehr lives 5 hours away but it is still in state
2007-01-14 02:11:50 · update #1
Call them and ask to speak with your daughter. End of story.
You were extremely generous letting your daughter go on this trip. It's too bad your Ex is such a pr*ck.
2007-01-14 02:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Start* the drama? LIke there's none going on now?
You let a loser get you pregnant, he cheats, you still believe his lies and he's screwing two women at once, one of whom he is already taking home to meet mommie when they'll only been together a month, as they have a 3 year old in tow and they are all three too irresponsible to call you?
No, there's no drama there. (rolls eyes)
Anyway - obviously even his mom is too immature and stupid to call you. So, CALL HER HOUSE. You be the responsible one, instead of pacing around all weekend waiting. How long is the drive? 5 hours? Then at 5 hours 15 start calling every 15 minutes until they get there. Once they get there, talk to your daughter, ask if she had a good trip, then tell her you will call her in the morning. Then call in the morning. What - your phone can only receive calls? Why put the responsibility on someone who disrespects you? He's an a s s h o l e, but why let him know he can still push your buttons and upset you?
And by the way - stop sleeping with him. He is a user and a liar and has ZERO respect for women in general.
2007-01-14 09:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I divorced when my son was 4, now he is close to 15, I never involved him in any dates or let him meet the casual sex partners I had until I met the man I am with now and knew it was going to be a long term relationship. My ex was coop. and did the same. It is too confusing for kids. You could have made arrangements for your daughter to see her grandmother without the ex and his new other, and you could have called your daughter to see if she was ok. You are just upset because there is another woman.
2007-01-14 09:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have had reservations about sending your daughter too, however it is his child as well (?). Here is the situation--she is your child--and it is great that you want her involved with her grandparents--why don't you try and set a "play date" with the grandparents for the weekend? You could take her yourself, and call at your leisure. That way you are not depriving her of her grandparents, you are comforted in your ability to talk to her, and you are not exposing her to "drama" or a situation that makes you uncomfortable. In the future if your "gut instinct" tells you something--GO WITH IT--usually it is right. I would definetly be upset, and would have called them/her to make sure she was ok.
2007-01-14 10:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute--you still having sex with your ex, after you have been divorced. I first think that you should get past him--and not confuse your daughter that way. 2nd your daughter is 3 years old--what can you remember from when you were 3 ?. Yes, she should go-----. Over time she will learn the type of man that he is (she doesn't need to hear it from you) and time to get moving with your life--it's over, he is your EX, but still her Father and Grandmother.
2007-01-14 09:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by redrepair 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are divorced all of this should be spelled out in the divorce agreement. If they are out of state this could be a major concern. If he is stopping your daughter from speaking to you then you need to contact your attorney since this is held contemptable by the court. My ex took my three kids to stay with the boyfriend overnight I contacted my attorney right away because although it was ok legally I had moral issues with this matter. In family courts moral concerns are as important as legal concerns. Good luck.
2007-01-14 09:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by paco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a bit jealous of the new GF. But keeping your daughter away from the other side of the family isn't fair.
2007-01-14 09:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by missbutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never let my 3 year old go in a situation like that. You are not wrong for this bothering you.
2007-01-14 09:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a loser and you should not have let her go. Don't you think it is time to take care of yourself now and stop listening to his meaningless drivel? And you have your daughter to consider as well. Face facts he is playing you to satisfy his onw end and now your paying the price.
2007-01-14 09:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋